[Unschooling-dotcom] College?
Kinkade
<<But my real point is that students in public school are not CONDITIONED to think about whay they're really interested in. The system tells them what they are to learn and when without any thought to what the PERSON really is interested in doing. Such training leads to a waste of time in getting where they really want to go. But this is something they find out years later.>>
My sister is a classic case of this. When we were in hs (we are only 1 year apart), we were always being asked things like, what college are you going to go to? what do you want to do with the rest of your life? I was always so stressed about it. I felt like we had to give an answer and that was what we had to do. For me, my answer was always the same, I would apologetically say, I want to get married and have children. I also wanted to teach and to be a nurse. But I knew I didn't want to go to college. But the pressure was on... For me, I became pregnant at 18 and was no longer "worthy" of college, as my dad put it. But as for my sister, she was not going to end up like me, (married with a baby at age 18) so she went to college. She went to a community college for 2 years, then off to a university for 3 more years. And you know, she doesn't even hold any degree... no kidding, not an AS or AA or Bachelor... nothing. She can't tell me one thing she "learned" there, except, don't take student loans. She now works as a waitress in a nice restaurant, she has a 1 year old son, and a live in boyfriend, who also works as a waiter. They do not live a nice life wealthy lifestyle, like she thought she'd have after 5 years of college. I now have 4 kids, I teach (unschooling) I get to be nurse any time they are sick or hurt and I am married. My sister tells me often that she envies me, because I did what I wanted, not what was expected. My point here is, we all need to follow our own dreams, not others expectations. I think this is partly why I love Unschooling. I have always wanted my children to follow their dreams.
Just my thoughts...
Rebecca
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My sister is a classic case of this. When we were in hs (we are only 1 year apart), we were always being asked things like, what college are you going to go to? what do you want to do with the rest of your life? I was always so stressed about it. I felt like we had to give an answer and that was what we had to do. For me, my answer was always the same, I would apologetically say, I want to get married and have children. I also wanted to teach and to be a nurse. But I knew I didn't want to go to college. But the pressure was on... For me, I became pregnant at 18 and was no longer "worthy" of college, as my dad put it. But as for my sister, she was not going to end up like me, (married with a baby at age 18) so she went to college. She went to a community college for 2 years, then off to a university for 3 more years. And you know, she doesn't even hold any degree... no kidding, not an AS or AA or Bachelor... nothing. She can't tell me one thing she "learned" there, except, don't take student loans. She now works as a waitress in a nice restaurant, she has a 1 year old son, and a live in boyfriend, who also works as a waiter. They do not live a nice life wealthy lifestyle, like she thought she'd have after 5 years of college. I now have 4 kids, I teach (unschooling) I get to be nurse any time they are sick or hurt and I am married. My sister tells me often that she envies me, because I did what I wanted, not what was expected. My point here is, we all need to follow our own dreams, not others expectations. I think this is partly why I love Unschooling. I have always wanted my children to follow their dreams.
Just my thoughts...
Rebecca
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