Re: questions (LONG)
faith buckley
MORELFAM@... wrote:
mean to sound that way. My personal definition of demand feeding is feeding
whenever the baby cries no matter how much time has gone by since the last
feeding. Even if it has only been an hour. The Ezzo's are being slammed for
Parent-controlled feeding.
I will give you the definition of Parent Controlled feeding straight from their
book:
"It is unfortunate, but there are still some whose only understanding of an
infant schedule comes from old wives' tales and bad advice. They speak of rigid
feeding periods with babies crying needlessly, waiting to be fed - and mothers
who are forced to harden their hearts to their baby's cry. Although that may be
an accurate reflection of the J.B. Watson era, it is a distorted picture of what
an infant schedule should be and what Parent-Controlled Feeding is.
The Parent-Controlled Feeding plan has to do with more than just feeding. It
is a 24 hour strategy designed to meet not only the needs of your baby, but those
of the entire family as well. It's made up of 3 basic activities that are
repeated in a rythmical cycle throughout the day: feeding, wake time, and nap
time. Those cycles are both routine and predictable" (Italics theirs) And then
they go in to say why routine and predictability are important to an infant.
There is another method of feeding that I beleive the Ezzo's method is being
mixed up with. The Clock Feeding or hyper-schedule. It is a synthetic response
since the mothering process is subject to the clock as the final authority. The
clock in a sense assumes all responsibility of right and wrong, removing the need
for emotions. The Ezzo's do not teach this nor do they believe it is right!
I feed my baby taking into consideration both time and true need. I know that
babies go through growth spurts and that sometimes their motabolism slows down,
and I also consider that. When my daughter was first born I was feeding her
whenever she cried. When I read about the PCF I tried it and it worked for me.
Feeding, waketime and naptime, in that order every 3-4 hours really freed me up
and seemed to take the stress out of it for me. I had her on a schedule and she
also seemed a lot less fussy than before. Like I said, it worked for me.
Everyone has their own way of doing things and I do not have any sort of
authority nor do I give myself heirs (sp?) to say anything about the way anyone
else does things.
I am certainly human and make plenty of mistakes, so I can truly say that I try
my best and rely on God to give me the wisdom I need. He says He gives it freely
to all who ask, so I ask on a regular basis!!! :-) I definately need it with 4
kids! I am not saying that because you demand feed that you aren't following
what God has said. God says different things to different people. TV might be a
sin for one person because they put it before God and not for another because
they don't. As long as you're living your best to please and follow Jesus, that's
all that matters. If you or I are doing anything wrong, as Christians He will
show it to us eventually. Isn't that good to know.
Thank you for asking and I am really sorry that I ever brought this up. I know
this is a mailing list about unschooling not debates on which way is right to
breastfeed and raise your kids. Please believe me that I never meant for any of
this to happen! I don't subscribe to being the final authority on anything so
please don't take anything I said as being condemning or condesending!
God Bless!!! :-)
Living for Him,
Faith
> From: MORELFAM@...:First of all there is nothing "shockingly" wrong with demand feeding, I didn't
>
> first: you wrote: <<Although I certainly do not feed-on-demand>>
> i wonder, what does your view see that is so shockingly wrong with following
> the cues that God has given the baby to tell us of her needs?
mean to sound that way. My personal definition of demand feeding is feeding
whenever the baby cries no matter how much time has gone by since the last
feeding. Even if it has only been an hour. The Ezzo's are being slammed for
Parent-controlled feeding.
I will give you the definition of Parent Controlled feeding straight from their
book:
"It is unfortunate, but there are still some whose only understanding of an
infant schedule comes from old wives' tales and bad advice. They speak of rigid
feeding periods with babies crying needlessly, waiting to be fed - and mothers
who are forced to harden their hearts to their baby's cry. Although that may be
an accurate reflection of the J.B. Watson era, it is a distorted picture of what
an infant schedule should be and what Parent-Controlled Feeding is.
The Parent-Controlled Feeding plan has to do with more than just feeding. It
is a 24 hour strategy designed to meet not only the needs of your baby, but those
of the entire family as well. It's made up of 3 basic activities that are
repeated in a rythmical cycle throughout the day: feeding, wake time, and nap
time. Those cycles are both routine and predictable" (Italics theirs) And then
they go in to say why routine and predictability are important to an infant.
There is another method of feeding that I beleive the Ezzo's method is being
mixed up with. The Clock Feeding or hyper-schedule. It is a synthetic response
since the mothering process is subject to the clock as the final authority. The
clock in a sense assumes all responsibility of right and wrong, removing the need
for emotions. The Ezzo's do not teach this nor do they believe it is right!
I feed my baby taking into consideration both time and true need. I know that
babies go through growth spurts and that sometimes their motabolism slows down,
and I also consider that. When my daughter was first born I was feeding her
whenever she cried. When I read about the PCF I tried it and it worked for me.
Feeding, waketime and naptime, in that order every 3-4 hours really freed me up
and seemed to take the stress out of it for me. I had her on a schedule and she
also seemed a lot less fussy than before. Like I said, it worked for me.
Everyone has their own way of doing things and I do not have any sort of
authority nor do I give myself heirs (sp?) to say anything about the way anyone
else does things.
> and second: <<But I always compare it to what Scripture has to say.>>Honestly I rest my trust on God. I pray about it and go with what he tells me.
> since Scripture can be so easily used out of context to suit the defender, on
> whose interpretation do you rest your trust?
I am certainly human and make plenty of mistakes, so I can truly say that I try
my best and rely on God to give me the wisdom I need. He says He gives it freely
to all who ask, so I ask on a regular basis!!! :-) I definately need it with 4
kids! I am not saying that because you demand feed that you aren't following
what God has said. God says different things to different people. TV might be a
sin for one person because they put it before God and not for another because
they don't. As long as you're living your best to please and follow Jesus, that's
all that matters. If you or I are doing anything wrong, as Christians He will
show it to us eventually. Isn't that good to know.
Thank you for asking and I am really sorry that I ever brought this up. I know
this is a mailing list about unschooling not debates on which way is right to
breastfeed and raise your kids. Please believe me that I never meant for any of
this to happen! I don't subscribe to being the final authority on anything so
please don't take anything I said as being condemning or condesending!
God Bless!!! :-)
Living for Him,
Faith
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In a message dated 10/5/99 3:20:30 PM EST, faithb@... writes:
<< Thank you for asking and I am really sorry that I ever brought this up. I
know
this is a mailing list about unschooling not debates on which way is right to
breastfeed and raise your kids. >>
Faith,
It seems to me that this list is so much more then just a one subject list,
just as unschooling is so much more then just one thing. We share and grow
and help, our children as well as each other, I hope this list remains a
place for all of us to be able to talk about what concerns us, that is how
life long learners learn! lol
Teresa ; >
<< Thank you for asking and I am really sorry that I ever brought this up. I
know
this is a mailing list about unschooling not debates on which way is right to
breastfeed and raise your kids. >>
Faith,
It seems to me that this list is so much more then just a one subject list,
just as unschooling is so much more then just one thing. We share and grow
and help, our children as well as each other, I hope this list remains a
place for all of us to be able to talk about what concerns us, that is how
life long learners learn! lol
Teresa ; >
[email protected]
In a message dated 10/5/99 3:20:22 PM EST, faithb@... writes:
<< Honestly I rest my trust on God. I pray about it and go with what he
tells me.
I am certainly human and make plenty of mistakes, so I can truly say that I
try
my best and rely on God to give me the wisdom I need. He says He gives it
freely
to all who ask, so I ask on a regular basis!!! :-) >>
Yay! That's all you need to say!
Lori in TX
<< Honestly I rest my trust on God. I pray about it and go with what he
tells me.
I am certainly human and make plenty of mistakes, so I can truly say that I
try
my best and rely on God to give me the wisdom I need. He says He gives it
freely
to all who ask, so I ask on a regular basis!!! :-) >>
Yay! That's all you need to say!
Lori in TX