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Hello!! We are just starting out with our homeschooling. Our kids are
5 and 2 so we are going very slow. For the most part we are not getting
any flack from friends and relatives- most are supportive. However, a
couple people are bringing up the "kids have to learn there is a time to
do things...can't just do what you want all day." type of thinking. I
guess they believe there should be time set for waking, etc.. I respect
their opinions but in my heart believe this may be a mindset pushed on
us from greater society. Just wondering what your take on this is and
how you handle matters like this one. Thanks for your help! Sharon

rumpleteasermom

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I
respect
> their opinions but in my heart believe this may be a mindset pushed
on
> us from greater society. Just wondering what your take on this is
and
> how you handle matters like this one. Thanks for your help! Sharon


I've pondered this one often. My kidlets have learned that if someone
else is waiting for you, it is important to be on time but that
artificial time constraints are not important.

In the bigger picture, I think this is part of the downfall of our
society. We are loosing our creative edge and things are going to
stagnate if we don't do something about it. People who invent things
and create things usually don't fit the 9 to 5 workday mold. So
training all of our children from age five to fit that mold has to be
affecting creativity somehow!

Bridget

Kara Bauer

Hi Sharon and welcome :)
<<However, a
couple people are bringing up the "kids have to learn there is a time to
do things...can't just do what you want all day." type of thinking. I
guess they believe there should be time set for waking, etc.. I respect
their opinions but in my heart believe this may be a mindset pushed on
us from greater society. Just wondering what your take on this is and
how you handle matters like this one.>>

You reminded me of a movie we watched the other day where the father says to his son, "you are an adult now, it's time to go and live your life" - I thought to myself, "who's life was it before 18?" LOL!

Anyway, I definitely think this is a mindset that has been pushed and that in general kids sleep when they are tired, eat when they are hungry, and learn what they need and want to know. I would ask these friends if they would want a warden coming in their rooms at 6 am saying that they need to wake up, just because we all need to wake up at 6 am... (well maybe that is to harsh)

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Tia Leschke

>Hello!! We are just starting out with our homeschooling. Our kids are
>5 and 2 so we are going very slow. For the most part we are not getting
>any flack from friends and relatives- most are supportive. However, a
>couple people are bringing up the "kids have to learn there is a time to
>do things...can't just do what you want all day." type of thinking. I
>guess they believe there should be time set for waking, etc.. I respect
>their opinions but in my heart believe this may be a mindset pushed on
>us from greater society. Just wondering what your take on this is and
>how you handle matters like this one. Thanks for your help! Sharon

Just because they're going to have to do something when they're all grown
up, we have to make them do it when they're really little? I just hate
that philosophy. I remember when I was in school and girls weren't allowed
to wear pants. The rationale was that we wouldn't be able to wear them to
work in an office when we grew up, so we had to get used to it. Stupid!

My son generally goes to bed quite late and sleeps till almost
noon. That's the schedule he prefers right now. But when he works, he has
no trouble going to bed much earlier and getting up on time with no
help. They're quite capable of doing the things they need to do when they
need to do them.
Tia

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Tia Leschke
leschke@...
On Vancouver Island

Joseph Fuerst

> Just because they're going to have to do something when they're all grown
> up, we have to make them do it when they're really little? I just hate
> that philosophy. I remember when I was in school and girls weren't
allowed
> to wear pants. The rationale was that we wouldn't be able to wear them to
> work in an office when we grew up, so we had to get used to it. Stupid!
>
I SO agree with you on despising this 'philosohy'!! Makes me want to tell
them, think about it, do you feed an infant solid foods 'cause he or she
is gonna hafta know how to chew one day? Do you think a toddler should
speak with words and sentences 'cause she's gonna hafta speak when she's
older? Do you give them the car keys 'cause they're gonna hafta drive one
day?
Grrrrrrrrrrr!
Susan