How I want to go
Julie Stauffer
I have had the "ideal funeral" planned for some time now. I tell dh that
when I die, I want to be mummified and propped up in the corner with a diet
coke and the morning paper to keep me company (although he would probably
set me at the computer checking email, the smart a$$ <g>). Then I want him
to take all the money he would have spent on a funeral and have a big party
with lots of Waylon Jennings and Bob Marley music.
In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?
when I die, I want to be mummified and propped up in the corner with a diet
coke and the morning paper to keep me company (although he would probably
set me at the computer checking email, the smart a$$ <g>). Then I want him
to take all the money he would have spent on a funeral and have a big party
with lots of Waylon Jennings and Bob Marley music.
In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?
alaurashome
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "Julie Stauffer" <jnjstau@g...>
wrote:
refrigerator or freezer and use the box for me. I always enjoyed
those boxes when I was small so I thought it might be a nice way to
go. My family can think of me when they eat ice cream. I have also
told him that I will haunt him if he lets some goofy beautician play
with my face and hair or dress me in churchy clothes. I hate that
stuff now, so why would I want to be dressed up then? I think a
flannel nightgown would be nice. That is probably how my kids will
remember me best (besides it is cold down there).
Alaura
wrote:
>is legal
> In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that
> to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?I have told my husband the same thing except I told him to buy a new
refrigerator or freezer and use the box for me. I always enjoyed
those boxes when I was small so I thought it might be a nice way to
go. My family can think of me when they eat ice cream. I have also
told him that I will haunt him if he lets some goofy beautician play
with my face and hair or dress me in churchy clothes. I hate that
stuff now, so why would I want to be dressed up then? I think a
flannel nightgown would be nice. That is probably how my kids will
remember me best (besides it is cold down there).
Alaura
Lynda
We own a cemetary, so that makes it somewhat easier. Each family member
already "owns" their own spot. The kidlets know what I want on the
headstone.
Lynda
already "owns" their own spot. The kidlets know what I want on the
headstone.
Lynda
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From: "Julie Stauffer" <jnjstau@...>
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Sent: Saturday, March 23, 2002 8:06 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] How I want to go
> I have had the "ideal funeral" planned for some time now. I tell dh that
> when I die, I want to be mummified and propped up in the corner with a
diet
> coke and the morning paper to keep me company (although he would probably
> set me at the computer checking email, the smart a$$ <g>). Then I want
him
> to take all the money he would have spent on a funeral and have a big
party
> with lots of Waylon Jennings and Bob Marley music.
>
> In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
> to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?
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joanna514
> In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least thatis legal
> to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?I just went to my great uncles funeral.
It was actually just a memorial service because he had donated his
body to science. I'm thinking of this as an option. There were no
funeral costs for my aunt. She just paid for the service which was
food and drink. She's not poor so it was a nice party, but I kept
thinking about how nice it would be to for relatives to not deal with
everything else.
Joanna
rumpleteasermom
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BTW - Here in Ohio state law does not mandate a burial vault but
according to my funeral director friend, you would be hard pressed to
find a cemetary that will take you without one. He says it is a
liability issue. The ground sags, someone trips, they sue . . .
Bridget
> Anybody else have theirs planned?Can I just be flung into the woods?
BTW - Here in Ohio state law does not mandate a burial vault but
according to my funeral director friend, you would be hard pressed to
find a cemetary that will take you without one. He says it is a
liability issue. The ground sags, someone trips, they sue . . .
Bridget
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On Sun, 24 Mar 2002 13:08:39 -0000 "joanna514" <Wilkinson6@...>
writes:
that when she suddenly took a turn for the worse and died. So, my dad, my
brother, Cacie, and I (my sister didn't want to be part of any of it) got
together and made plans, based on what she wanted and what we remebered
her saying over the years. My brother wants to be cremated and have his
ashes tossed into the ocean in a tackle box by the whole family,
somewhere warm so we get a good vacation out of it. I'm not sure of the
legalities, but it's a nice though. Cacie wants the very flashy, plush,
purple casket. My dad will be creamted and his urn put in the same
columbarium niche as my mother. They also have three boxes of dog
cremains on the bookshelf in the den, in between butterfly books and
books on the Sea of Cortez, but they're not allowed in the columbarium...
The funniest moment was when we all went to chose a casket for my mom
(you can chose the cardboard box option with a cremation, but because we
were having a viewing we chose a simple casket). We all walked into a
fairly large room with different open caskets along the walls and in the
center. It was more emotionally wrenching than we had expected - my
brother had to leave the room at first - but as we walked through Cacie
quipped "This looks like a hotel for vampires" and we laughed, and it was
better...
We've used the same funeral home for my mom, my grandpa ('92) and my
sister ('78). My dad knows them professionally, as well, which maybe
makes it a little easier, but they seem to keep a nice balance between
sympathetic and businesslike, and they were open to all of our unusual
requests (mostly the somewhat unorthodox obit my dad wrote and bringing
my mom's little dog to the viewing, in hopes that she would finally stop
waiting for her by the back door). I don't think I would want all this
happening at home, although I certainly respect that other people might.
We did want my mother to die at home, and she really wanted this as well
- we had made plans with the hospice to bring her home the morning that
she died.
Anyway, thanks for letting me babble... after three months I seem to want
to talk about it all.
Dar
writes:
> I just went to my great uncles funeral.My mom died without really planning anything - she had just started doing
> It was actually just a memorial service because he had donated his
> body to science. I'm thinking of this as an option. There were no
> funeral costs for my aunt. She just paid for the service which was
> food and drink. She's not poor so it was a nice party, but I kept
> thinking about how nice it would be to for relatives to not deal
> with everything else.
that when she suddenly took a turn for the worse and died. So, my dad, my
brother, Cacie, and I (my sister didn't want to be part of any of it) got
together and made plans, based on what she wanted and what we remebered
her saying over the years. My brother wants to be cremated and have his
ashes tossed into the ocean in a tackle box by the whole family,
somewhere warm so we get a good vacation out of it. I'm not sure of the
legalities, but it's a nice though. Cacie wants the very flashy, plush,
purple casket. My dad will be creamted and his urn put in the same
columbarium niche as my mother. They also have three boxes of dog
cremains on the bookshelf in the den, in between butterfly books and
books on the Sea of Cortez, but they're not allowed in the columbarium...
The funniest moment was when we all went to chose a casket for my mom
(you can chose the cardboard box option with a cremation, but because we
were having a viewing we chose a simple casket). We all walked into a
fairly large room with different open caskets along the walls and in the
center. It was more emotionally wrenching than we had expected - my
brother had to leave the room at first - but as we walked through Cacie
quipped "This looks like a hotel for vampires" and we laughed, and it was
better...
We've used the same funeral home for my mom, my grandpa ('92) and my
sister ('78). My dad knows them professionally, as well, which maybe
makes it a little easier, but they seem to keep a nice balance between
sympathetic and businesslike, and they were open to all of our unusual
requests (mostly the somewhat unorthodox obit my dad wrote and bringing
my mom's little dog to the viewing, in hopes that she would finally stop
waiting for her by the back door). I don't think I would want all this
happening at home, although I certainly respect that other people might.
We did want my mother to die at home, and she really wanted this as well
- we had made plans with the hospice to bring her home the morning that
she died.
Anyway, thanks for letting me babble... after three months I seem to want
to talk about it all.
Dar
zenmomma *
>>I have had the "ideal funeral" planned for some time now. I tell dh thatIn reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
>>when I die, I want to be mummified and propped up in the corner with a
>>diet coke and the morning paper to keep me company (although he would
>>probably set me at the computer checking email, the smart a$$ <g>). Then
>>I want him to take all the money he would have spent on a funeral and have
>>a big party with lots of Waylon Jennings and Bob Marley music.
to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?>>
TeeHee. When I was younger, and for many, many years, I said I wanted to be
cremated and have my ashes ground into my mil's white carpeting. <beg> It's
been 25+ years that I've know her now, we get along fine and she's a lovely
woman, so I have grown out of this silly request. (Besides, she tiled the
whole apartment. ;-))
Jon and I have talked about what we'd like. Neither of us wants anything
that costs much. We'd like immediate creamation and some sort of
party/celebration of our lives, with a scattering of the ashes. The party
would be whatever the survivng one thinks will help eveyone concerned. As
for music, I'd bet Jon's would have some Grateful Dead (at least Ripple and
Box of Rain). Actually, he just told me he wants it to be a drunken street
fest. :o) I'd prefer the music of James and some dancing.
Life is good.
~Mary
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Lynda
When Grampa Harry died, Uncle LeRoy rented a park, called all the family and
said bring out the photo albums. Grampa Harry was cremated and his ashes
were set in the middle of all the albums and framed photos. Everyone shared
their fondest memories, we had a bbq and there was plenty of Grampa Harry's
favorite beer. His ashes were then scattered on the top of a mountain that
was his favorite place to "get away from it all."
Beautiful memories for everyone to take home.
Lynda
said bring out the photo albums. Grampa Harry was cremated and his ashes
were set in the middle of all the albums and framed photos. Everyone shared
their fondest memories, we had a bbq and there was plenty of Grampa Harry's
favorite beer. His ashes were then scattered on the top of a mountain that
was his favorite place to "get away from it all."
Beautiful memories for everyone to take home.
Lynda
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From: "zenmomma *" <zenmomma@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Sunday, March 24, 2002 10:28 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] How I want to go
>
>
> >>I have had the "ideal funeral" planned for some time now. I tell dh
that
> >>when I die, I want to be mummified and propped up in the corner with a
> >>diet coke and the morning paper to keep me company (although he would
> >>probably set me at the computer checking email, the smart a$$ <g>).
Then
> >>I want him to take all the money he would have spent on a funeral and
have
> >>a big party with lots of Waylon Jennings and Bob Marley music.
>
> In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
> to do. Anybody else have theirs planned?>>
>
> TeeHee. When I was younger, and for many, many years, I said I wanted to
be
> cremated and have my ashes ground into my mil's white carpeting. <beg>
It's
> been 25+ years that I've know her now, we get along fine and she's a
lovely
> woman, so I have grown out of this silly request. (Besides, she tiled the
> whole apartment. ;-))
>
> Jon and I have talked about what we'd like. Neither of us wants anything
> that costs much. We'd like immediate creamation and some sort of
> party/celebration of our lives, with a scattering of the ashes. The party
> would be whatever the survivng one thinks will help eveyone concerned. As
> for music, I'd bet Jon's would have some Grateful Dead (at least Ripple
and
> Box of Rain). Actually, he just told me he wants it to be a drunken street
> fest. :o) I'd prefer the music of James and some dancing.
>
> Life is good.
> ~Mary
>
>
>
>
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In a message dated 3/23/02 8:09:16 PM Pacific Standard Time, jnjstau@...
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<<
In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
to do. Anybody else have theirs planned? >>
Dh and I have always wanted to be creamated and we have promised to
scatter the ashes at Lake Mead, NV a special place for us for many years.
(This ash scattering would occur in the water from the 32 ft off-shore boat
he/she would purchase with some of the insurance money we often joke <g>).
After watching Arthur (Sean Connery) recently, we decided we would like
to be cast out to sea with our remains torched with a flaming arrow. Now
thats
a cool way to go. But really, I told dh I would probably have to hold onto
his ashes for awhile cos I don't think I would be ready to let go of him for
a long time.
As for the funeral, I would like a viewing. My children have experienced
a lot of death in their young lives and I have realised it was very important
for my oldest to be able to see her grandma one last time (against many
people's advice). She stroked her hair, put a flower on her chest. She was
7. It still makes me cry. So I have told dh, make sure my children get that
final opportunity, the closure. Also, and lastly I want one big nice flower
arrangement from dh and kids and the rest to please make a donation to LLL
and my state hs organization
rather than wasting money on flowers.
Kathy
writes:
<<
In reality though, I have asked him to do the absolute least that is legal
to do. Anybody else have theirs planned? >>
Dh and I have always wanted to be creamated and we have promised to
scatter the ashes at Lake Mead, NV a special place for us for many years.
(This ash scattering would occur in the water from the 32 ft off-shore boat
he/she would purchase with some of the insurance money we often joke <g>).
After watching Arthur (Sean Connery) recently, we decided we would like
to be cast out to sea with our remains torched with a flaming arrow. Now
thats
a cool way to go. But really, I told dh I would probably have to hold onto
his ashes for awhile cos I don't think I would be ready to let go of him for
a long time.
As for the funeral, I would like a viewing. My children have experienced
a lot of death in their young lives and I have realised it was very important
for my oldest to be able to see her grandma one last time (against many
people's advice). She stroked her hair, put a flower on her chest. She was
7. It still makes me cry. So I have told dh, make sure my children get that
final opportunity, the closure. Also, and lastly I want one big nice flower
arrangement from dh and kids and the rest to please make a donation to LLL
and my state hs organization
rather than wasting money on flowers.
Kathy
joanna514
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<rumpleteasermom@j...> wrote:
That actually sounds appealing to me!
Joanna
<rumpleteasermom@j...> wrote:
> > Anybody else have theirs planned?LOL!
>
> Can I just be flung into the woods?
>
>
That actually sounds appealing to me!
Joanna
kaydeecross
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "rumpleteasermom"
> <rumpleteasermom@j...> wrote:I suppose a Viking funeral is out of the question, eh?
> > > Anybody else have theirs planned?
zenmomma *
>>I suppose a Viking funeral is out of the question, eh?>>LOL! This was my Mom's suggestion for Casey's hamster when he died recently.
We ended up cremating him. The Utah ground was too frozen to dig through.
Life is good.
~Mary
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In a message dated 3/25/02 9:42:13 AM, zenmomma@... writes:
<<
LOL! This was my Mom's suggestion for Casey's hamster when he died recently.
We ended up cremating him. The Utah ground was too frozen to dig through. >>
Wow. A little milk carton ship on the shore of the Great Salt Lake at dusk...
The little hamster with his sword and shield and exercise wheel...
By medieval Norse law, if he was murdered, all the killer's relatives owe all
of the hamster's relatives (that's your family, at least) gold and red cloth
and stuff!! I wonder what "hamster-geld" is.
Sandra
<<
LOL! This was my Mom's suggestion for Casey's hamster when he died recently.
We ended up cremating him. The Utah ground was too frozen to dig through. >>
Wow. A little milk carton ship on the shore of the Great Salt Lake at dusk...
The little hamster with his sword and shield and exercise wheel...
By medieval Norse law, if he was murdered, all the killer's relatives owe all
of the hamster's relatives (that's your family, at least) gold and red cloth
and stuff!! I wonder what "hamster-geld" is.
Sandra