Lucie Caunter

I am confused. If you unschool, you take school out and is left with
learning. But with Unparenting,if you take parent out ,what are you left
with?
May be my problem is that I find it difficult to understand how anyone would
want less parenting? My generation was shoved into day-care, then
pre-school, then school... My father died mostly a stranger to us. And we
are stranger to my mother mostly too. We are fortunate that we can live very
differently. We live WITH our children. We are not some mythical person,
some days on pedestal others in the gutter. We know each others humanity.
Parenting is what comes after the chicken and the egg thing. It's not a one
way relationship. Rather looks like a very beautiful circle.
Sorry about the ranting. In some ways one could say that my childhood was
abused, robbed of a natural relationship with adults around me. But
reversing the flow of a linear thinking make no sense either. We need to
bridge the gap, close the circle.
Who knows may be in time our society could learn to close other circle, and
return to some more appreciative communities.
Friendship,
Lucie
----- Original Message -----
From: Tia Leschke <leschke@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Wednesday, March 20, 2002 3:41 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Unparenting and TCS


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> >coat. When it's 10 degrees outside, he just wears a sweat jacket.
> >But come spring, there's that winter coat!
> >Now that I think about it, maybe it just takes him a whole season to
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> I have a cute picture of Noah, taken one summer. He was wearing his
winter
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> Tia
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Kara Bauer

I am confused. If you unschool, you take school out and is left with
learning. But with Unparenting,if you take parent out ,what are you left
with?>>

My idea of unparenting, although I'm not sure I would call it that (but unsure what I would call it) is not really taking the parent out. It's treating children with respect, just as you would any other adult. Would I come to your house and tell you that it was 12pm and it was time for lunch? No, not unless I wanted to be kicked out, LOL!

I think 'unparenting' IMO, is actually a very involved parent. They just don't exert control over people smaller than themselves or over anyone in general just because they can.

HTH,
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In a message dated 3/21/02 10:43:53 AM, KaraBauer4@... writes:

<< I think 'unparenting' IMO, is actually a very involved parent. >>

Well then call it "involved parenting!"

Kolleen

><< I think 'unparenting' IMO, is actually a very involved parent. >>
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>Well then call it "involved parenting!"


Why should it matter what someone wants to call themselves if that term
hasn't been defined in the Oxford, Webster etc?

Some people actually are pioneers and end up defining it by their actions
and their lives. Not by vehemently deciding who should fit where.

kolleen

"A man is as miserable as he thinks he is"