Bonni Sollars

(For example, if an older child decided to take music lessons, which we
pay for. What if
this child does not want to go consistently? Do we let them skip lessons
or do we
"require" that they meet this obligation of theirs?)
Josefa,
that question has arisen in my household. My husband thinks because the
buck stops here, with him, that my son has no say in how he wrestles.
But I say, talk with the child and come to a solution. Find out why he
doesn't want to go and go from there. I talked with my son and found out
it was the matches that were boring him, not the mat club. The matches
were against an opponent who was either far superior or far inferior, so
he felt they taught him nothing. So, we (he and I) came to an agreement
that he would go to mat club, but pick and choose which matches to attend
and let us know a week ahead of time. But my husband said, because of my
son's irresponsible behavior by calling it off at the last minute that
just proves he is just a kid and that it is Dad's job to decide for him.
I was miffed at this and the next day my husband got an earful of what I
thought of his listening skills. So far, my son still goes and the
subject hasn't been brought up again, since my son decided to go along to
get along:(
Bonni

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