Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1817
Mary Hickman
Hi Sara,
kids home when they seem so unhappy. My oldest sounds similar to your son.
She is also 7. We have 3 kids 7,5,2. It seems my oldest has a negative first
reaction to many things. I have found the more I push her out in the world
the more negative she becomes. So I treaat her very baby like, hold her when
I can, spend time one on one. Now my baby is 2 and you have a newborn who is
your primary focus. Do you have 1 close friend who your kids enjoy spending
time with? Now is the time to ask for help so you can focus on the sweet
baby with a difficult nursing situation.
As for money, we have always just gotten by, short most months. Something
that helps us is that many things can be borrowed from libraries, and thrift
stories hold many treasures. Kids as young as ours really do not need to own
much. The internet can lead to many great conversations. We rent tapes from
the library too, like beginning watercolor, then let the kids go. Also, when
relatives ask what you need be very specific. If you really need storage
boxes instead of another plastic toy, say so.
Now is also a time for your partner to get closer to the 2 older kids. They
get their cups full from a loving person and the burden does not weigh on
you. Oh, I let my kids sleep with me while baby is on my other side.
Something about that night time cuddle helps a ton. And it is not your
responsibility to make your little guy happy, though in hurts a ton to see
them unhappy.
I have been tired, burned out from kids off and on during the 7 years I have
been a mama. I know reaching out to other like minded folks makes a
difference. I wish you well, rest, and peace in your home.
Mary
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>he's been resentful of his sister since she was born. So I thought schoolI can completely relate and have many times questioned my choice to keep the
>might give him something all his own & feed his outgoing social nature. I
>hoped we'd see an improvement in his negative behavior. He was behind
kids home when they seem so unhappy. My oldest sounds similar to your son.
She is also 7. We have 3 kids 7,5,2. It seems my oldest has a negative first
reaction to many things. I have found the more I push her out in the world
the more negative she becomes. So I treaat her very baby like, hold her when
I can, spend time one on one. Now my baby is 2 and you have a newborn who is
your primary focus. Do you have 1 close friend who your kids enjoy spending
time with? Now is the time to ask for help so you can focus on the sweet
baby with a difficult nursing situation.
As for money, we have always just gotten by, short most months. Something
that helps us is that many things can be borrowed from libraries, and thrift
stories hold many treasures. Kids as young as ours really do not need to own
much. The internet can lead to many great conversations. We rent tapes from
the library too, like beginning watercolor, then let the kids go. Also, when
relatives ask what you need be very specific. If you really need storage
boxes instead of another plastic toy, say so.
Now is also a time for your partner to get closer to the 2 older kids. They
get their cups full from a loving person and the burden does not weigh on
you. Oh, I let my kids sleep with me while baby is on my other side.
Something about that night time cuddle helps a ton. And it is not your
responsibility to make your little guy happy, though in hurts a ton to see
them unhappy.
I have been tired, burned out from kids off and on during the 7 years I have
been a mama. I know reaching out to other like minded folks makes a
difference. I wish you well, rest, and peace in your home.
Mary
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