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In a message dated 12/31/01 1:13:17 AM Pacific Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< > I can't help but wonder... his mother and grandmother were clean
> freaks... so he was getting the modeling there... BUT what happened? >>


What happened is that he was taught that WOMEN cleaned
up these messes, not men. My husband (Korean) was brought
up the very same way as your husband. In his home, men never
lifted a finger. From the moment they walked through the door, to
the moment they left the house, the women waited on them hand
and foot. Food was brought to them, and dirty dishes were taken
away and washed. They would dump dirty clothes on the floor and
the clothes were scooped up by the women, washed, folded and put
back into drawers. When hubby needed new underwear, his Mom
ran out and bought them for him (this was when he was 25!!). At
dinner, if his drink was almost finished, she would jump up to refill
it for him before it was empty. Same with his rice bowl. His mother
always cut up the meat for her husband so he wouldn't have to be
bothered cutting his own meat. She also took the bones out of fish
for him, again, so he could eat without having to work at it. The men
did NOTHING *in* the house!!

It has taken YEARS for me to get my husband to help around the
house. When we were living with his parents, they would literally
scold him whenever he tried to help me out accusing me of being
a very lazy wife for not doing EVERYTHING for him.

One time, they literally jumped down my throat because I refused
to peel oranges for him, section them and present them to him on
a plate. I figured, he's a grown man, he can peel his own oranges!
Nope, we've had whole boxes of mandarin oranges go bad because
he refused to peel them himself. So, I've just quit buying oranges.

I could go on and on,,,but I'm sure you get the picture.

Andrea Kim :-)
Mommy to two sweeties!
Laura (almost 6!!) and Allison (2)
Kent, WA,,,,soon to be Seattle!

Alan Moorehead

I agree. DON'T BUY ANY MORE ORANGES until he learns how to peel them
himself!!!!

Mimi


On Tuesday, January 1, 2002, at 05:27 AM, aelanmichael@... wrote:

> In a message dated 12/31/01 1:13:17 AM Pacific Standard Time,
> [email protected] writes:
>
> << > I can't help but wonder... his mother and grandmother were clean
>> freaks... so he was getting the modeling there... BUT what happened? >>
>
>
> What happened is that he was taught that WOMEN cleaned
> up these messes, not men. My husband (Korean) was brought
> up the very same way as your husband. In his home, men never
> lifted a finger. From the moment they walked through the door, to
> the moment they left the house, the women waited on them hand
> and foot. Food was brought to them, and dirty dishes were taken
> away and washed. They would dump dirty clothes on the floor and
> the clothes were scooped up by the women, washed, folded and put
> back into drawers. When hubby needed new underwear, his Mom
> ran out and bought them for him (this was when he was 25!!). At
> dinner, if his drink was almost finished, she would jump up to refill
> it for him before it was empty. Same with his rice bowl. His mother
> always cut up the meat for her husband so he wouldn't have to be
> bothered cutting his own meat. She also took the bones out of fish
> for him, again, so he could eat without having to work at it. The men
> did NOTHING *in* the house!!
>
> It has taken YEARS for me to get my husband to help around the
> house. When we were living with his parents, they would literally
> scold him whenever he tried to help me out accusing me of being
> a very lazy wife for not doing EVERYTHING for him.
>
> One time, they literally jumped down my throat because I refused
> to peel oranges for him, section them and present them to him on
> a plate. I figured, he's a grown man, he can peel his own oranges!
> Nope, we've had whole boxes of mandarin oranges go bad because
> he refused to peel them himself. So, I've just quit buying oranges.
>
> I could go on and on,,,but I'm sure you get the picture.
>
> Andrea Kim :-)
> Mommy to two sweeties!
> Laura (almost 6!!) and Allison (2)
> Kent, WA,,,,soon to be Seattle!
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
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