DATING QUESTION
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I want to ask the list about how they approach the subject of dating and 'the
first kiss'. My oldest is 12 and has gone a few times to another girl's
house with a group of kids who are all 13. It is usually about 4 girls and 2
boys. He says they play on the computer and talk and goof around. I know
that girls are starting to have crushes on him, but 12 is too young! Girls
mature faster then boys, since I remember being one once. How do I handle
this subject?! Please respond with advice and stories I can learn from.
Thank you!
Mary
first kiss'. My oldest is 12 and has gone a few times to another girl's
house with a group of kids who are all 13. It is usually about 4 girls and 2
boys. He says they play on the computer and talk and goof around. I know
that girls are starting to have crushes on him, but 12 is too young! Girls
mature faster then boys, since I remember being one once. How do I handle
this subject?! Please respond with advice and stories I can learn from.
Thank you!
Mary
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We "handle" this like we do everything else. We trust Lelia's judgment. . she
is 12 and a half. She is at a party tonight with other unschoolers, from her
age up to age 18 I believe. There is a young man she has a crush on who is
16, who is coming over tomorrow. They might go get a bite to eat. . .her
choice. We have always talked about everything and still do. We take each day
as it comes and try to learn from all the experiences that come our way. I
would not begin now to try and control her actions by saying no dating until
such and such an age, or anything of that nature.
living in abundance
lovemary
The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry - from lifetime
to lifetime.
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is 12 and a half. She is at a party tonight with other unschoolers, from her
age up to age 18 I believe. There is a young man she has a crush on who is
16, who is coming over tomorrow. They might go get a bite to eat. . .her
choice. We have always talked about everything and still do. We take each day
as it comes and try to learn from all the experiences that come our way. I
would not begin now to try and control her actions by saying no dating until
such and such an age, or anything of that nature.
living in abundance
lovemary
The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry - from lifetime
to lifetime.
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Sarah Carothers
Oh, alright. Honestly? I nearly croaked when my oldest got her first kiss. It took every ounce of restraint for me to not interfere but you can bet, I was *dying* to! DD could sense my discontent and I could tell that the more I acted that way, the worse it got. So, I had to fake liking the guy and welcome him with open arms. It was extremely hard but I did it <g>. Well, ... the guy practically lived over here... ate his meals here (whad'dIlooklike? A restaurant?!) Anyway, all he wanted to do was snuggle and watch MTV <sigh>. DD *finally* got sick of it and sent him packing after 3 weeks. (yeah!!) When I asked her why they broke up, she said he was totally boring and too possessive.
Had I continued on my first course of showing my disapproval, I shudder to think what would have happened. Luckily, I butted out and things went the natural course.
IMO you should remain neutral as much as possible. If there's something you dislike about the girl, if you can possibly point out these qualities without alienating him, that might help him come around to your way of thinking.
Sarah
Had I continued on my first course of showing my disapproval, I shudder to think what would have happened. Luckily, I butted out and things went the natural course.
IMO you should remain neutral as much as possible. If there's something you dislike about the girl, if you can possibly point out these qualities without alienating him, that might help him come around to your way of thinking.
Sarah
----- Original Message -----
From: Unschoolingmommy@...
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Sent: Friday, December 28, 2001 9:40 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] DATING QUESTION
I want to ask the list about how they approach the subject of dating and 'the
first kiss'. My oldest is 12 and has gone a few times to another girl's
house with a group of kids who are all 13. It is usually about 4 girls and 2
boys. He says they play on the computer and talk and goof around. I know
that girls are starting to have crushes on him, but 12 is too young! Girls
mature faster then boys, since I remember being one once. How do I handle
this subject?! Please respond with advice and stories I can learn from.
Thank you!
Mary
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