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In a message dated 12/25/01 2:49:34 AM Mountain Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:


> <BWG> IT's DRIVING HER BATTY THAT I HAVEN'T LASHED BACK AND GOTTEN
> INTO A BIG CAT FIGHT WITH HER :-)
> Pat, some people don't want to hear what you have to say no matter
> how good or true or sincere it is. The ones that act so hateful don't
> deserve a minute's thought from you. *Nothing* you say or do will
> change them; they have so much other baggage making them the way they
> are that they need greater help than what either of us could offer,
> ya know? Ya just chalk it up and keep going.
> Merry Christmas all you listees ;-)
> Sarah
>
>

I could have written this post w/ a few differences. My mother is the
one giving me a hard time. I am ruining my child and her life. I moved far
away and I am an unschooler. She battered me on the phone a couple of weeks
ago and I hung up eventually. Finally I wrote an apology e-mail. She scathed
back I said a small bit to explain, she seethed back I stopped and wrote a
simple lets forget the fight e-mail. Finally she quit w/ a few digs and a no
phone calls till after the holidays. I am cold, calculating and insecure b/c
I won't discuss our choices. Discuss? Huh gets yelled at and cursed at is not
discussing. Thus I am cold. If I truly believed in what I was doing I'd
"discuss" it. UGH!

I am sick of it. But she is my mother and I am her only child so I feel
obligated to make peace. I always do.

NICKI~


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Sarah Carothers

{{Nicki}} ! That's the pits! I also feel that obligation for some
reason.
ok.. so here's the plan. Next time she gets on our case, wants to
"discuss" it, whip out a John Holt book (or my favorite Real Lives by
Grace Lewellyn) and tell her the discussion will begin in one
week..AFTER she's finished reading the book :-) :-P *Maybe* then,
she'll either read it and learn or she'll stop the harassment. It
will at least put you in a position to have something *to* discuss
other than misled opinions about what you're doing ~or~ she won't
bring it up because she'll never take the time to learn about it.
Wishing you better success that I've had!
Sarah
~xx~ ~xx~ ~xx~
Sarah Carothers
puddles@...


On Tue, 25 Dec 2001 13:27:02 EST, RValvo7626@... wrote:
>If I truly believed in what I was
>doing I'd
>"discuss" it. UGH!
>
> I am sick of it. But she is my mother and I am her only child
>so I feel
>obligated to make peace. I always do.
>
> NICKI~




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