Bad Parents
Julie Stauffer
<<if they could accept there is no line to conform to>>
but there is a line. We do not live in a vacuum and our and our children's
behavior impact others. Example: My 3yo is a different kind of a kid. He
is my 4th child and I had over 20 foster kids so it isn't like I have
nothing to compare him to. He is tremendously loud, he is tremendously
active, he is tremendously tactile. He is an in your face, yelling (at
least it seems like it to the listener) little whirlwind. He is prone to
tremendous meltdowns. We work with him at home and try to maneuver our
lives around so he doesn't have to be overly stressed.
I try to shop when dh can stay with Danny. I try to make sure when he does
have to come with me places that we have snacks, he is rested, has something
to occupy him, etc.. We still have meltdowns in public places. He gets
overly excited and loses it, yelling, hitting, throwing things. I can't
just leave, because if I could have possibly scheduled things differently or
had a sitter for him, I would have. Sometimes, I am OK and sometimes I'm
not.
I really think that it belittles parents to assume that if they just always
did things "right", then situations would work out fine and all would be
happy. Sometimes, my kids have bad days, sometimes I do, sometimes the
neighbor does. Most times, I am able to come up with a plan that keeps
things running smoothly. And sometimes the best laid plans of mice and
men....
Julie
but there is a line. We do not live in a vacuum and our and our children's
behavior impact others. Example: My 3yo is a different kind of a kid. He
is my 4th child and I had over 20 foster kids so it isn't like I have
nothing to compare him to. He is tremendously loud, he is tremendously
active, he is tremendously tactile. He is an in your face, yelling (at
least it seems like it to the listener) little whirlwind. He is prone to
tremendous meltdowns. We work with him at home and try to maneuver our
lives around so he doesn't have to be overly stressed.
I try to shop when dh can stay with Danny. I try to make sure when he does
have to come with me places that we have snacks, he is rested, has something
to occupy him, etc.. We still have meltdowns in public places. He gets
overly excited and loses it, yelling, hitting, throwing things. I can't
just leave, because if I could have possibly scheduled things differently or
had a sitter for him, I would have. Sometimes, I am OK and sometimes I'm
not.
I really think that it belittles parents to assume that if they just always
did things "right", then situations would work out fine and all would be
happy. Sometimes, my kids have bad days, sometimes I do, sometimes the
neighbor does. Most times, I am able to come up with a plan that keeps
things running smoothly. And sometimes the best laid plans of mice and
men....
Julie
rumpleteasermom
Julie,
You know, it really makes me feel good to hear that I am not the only
one out her facing these types of things! I can't agree more with
what you said here.
Bridget
You know, it really makes me feel good to hear that I am not the only
one out her facing these types of things! I can't agree more with
what you said here.
Bridget
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "Julie Stauffer" <jnjstau@g...> wrote:
>
> I really think that it belittles parents to assume that if they
just always
> did things "right", then situations would work out fine and all
would be
> happy. Sometimes, my kids have bad days, sometimes I do, sometimes
the
> neighbor does. Most times, I am able to come up with a plan that
keeps
> things running smoothly. And sometimes the best laid plans of mice
and
> men....
>
> Julie