Kolleen

>Elsa writes:
>I think it's important to admit that not hitting our kids is a struggle for
>some of us. If we had all been raised in families in which children were
>never hit, maybe we would not be vulnerable to taking it personally when a
>child is, through no fault of his own, temporarily harder to deal with. We'd
>react calmly.

Elsa, I can definately identify with what you are saying. We as children,
were severly abused. Not just emotionally from a hard-working and
over-taxed mom, but from a dad (his childhood history is enough to make
you cry).

Maybe the fact that his beating were sadistic and sometimes rendered us
unconscious was a blessing in disguise. Somehow, out of 5 children, not
one of us hits our children or even has to fight it.

Abuse, be it emotional, physical or spiritual DOES tend to find itself
repeating from one generation to another.

Elsa, your choice in attachment parenting as opposed to mimic your
parents is one that I'm sure was not easy. Good luck and lots of
blessings in your endeavors.

regards,
kolleen