Joseph Fuerst

Well, If anyone finds the cleaning fairy, will you see if there's an
exercise fairy, too? Heck, at our house, even the Tooth fairy is not
reliable!! LOL
Susan

><<I thought it said "then we have a cleaning fairy."
>
>Boy, was I jealous for a moment!
>
>Betsy <g>>>
>
>I'd like one of those! <vbg>

Is somebody taking orders? <g> I'll take one too.
Tia

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Message: 23
Date: Wed, 21 Nov 2001 09:27:00 -0800
From: Tia Leschke <leschke@...>
Subject: Re: Re: To whom do children belong?

At 03:14 PM 11/21/01 +0000, you wrote:
>Those of us who are Christians also have a Biblical mandate to "train
>up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not
>depart from it". How can we "train up" a child, if we never require
>anything of him?

By example. Works better anyway.
Tia

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Message: 24
Date: Wed, 21 Nov 2001 09:32:42 -0800
From: Tia Leschke <leschke@...>
Subject: Re: What we say to anyone who criticizes our values

...Good stuff snipped


>When others have a problem with what I'm doing, I might say again
>nicely that "We are having a fine time and the unschooling (or
>whatever) is really working for us". I won't go on the
>defensive, because that puts them in control of the situation. Their
>feelings are real, but they are not about anything you are doing. They
>are all about what they've done, and experienced in
>their own life. Anything you say or do will always be filtered through
>their own experiences. That's why their problem with what you do can
>only belong to them.
>
>Gotta get going now. Just a start of a new thought, what do you all
>think?

I quite agree with you. Good points. I think I might even go so far next
time as to respond with something like, "So, I guess school works really
well for your kids, eh?"
Tia

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Message: 25
Date: Wed, 21 Nov 2001 18:15:38 -0000
From: "Bridget" <rumpleteasermom@...>
Subject: Re: unschooling vs. unparenting

Tia,
Consider that I originally wrote that paragraph to read:
"I personally want to know if my words are coming across meaning
something I don't. When it happened frequently I went back to see if
I could figure out why. But I could only do that if I heard what
others thought I mean in a resectful way."

I changed the wording because the same thing had just happened with a
different person here just before I wrote it and I'd seen it before.
So I decided it was applicable to many others and I rewrote to be a
neutral "one". If you saw something else, maybe you might want to
contemplate whether you are reading what I write, or what you THINK I
write.

Bridget


--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., Tia Leschke <leschke@i...> wrote:
>
>
> >I should think that one would want to know if one's words are
coming
> >across as meaning something they don't. If it happens frequently
one
> >might want to go back and reread one's own words to see WHY they
had
> >unintended effects. But one can't do that unless one hears how
> >others interpreted him/her.
>
> *If* it was important to that person that her words be heard in
exactly the
> way she intended them by every person on this list, she would have
listened
> to you by now and changed her "evil" ways. Since she hasn't, I
assume that
> your perceptions are not a priority for her. Every time this issue
seems
> to have settled down, up it pops again. You're flogging a dead
horse, Bridget.
> Tia
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