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In a message dated 9/2/01 12:40:28 AM US Mountain Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:


> i ask because my ex is in rehab right now. i wonder is a touch and go, empty
> promise father better than no father at all?
>
> brenda
>
no father at all has to be better. I grew up in an addicted family, mother
is an alcoholic, albeit functioning and father was (he died 13 years ago) a
sex addict... For those of you unclear on sexual addiction (the biggest
addiction we actually have in this country that's not talked about.... just
look at Bill Clinton)... Sex addiction can be anything from masturbation,
voyerismn, multiple sexual partners, rape, abuse, reading porno on the
internet, in magazines, in porn stores,... it's about getting a "high"
feeling from the act of being involved with something sexual.... Just wanted
to clarify what it is...

My mother wasn't available emotionally, although she was there physically and
my father wasn't available in all ways.

The chances of children becoming either addicts or codependents are extremely
high if they are exposed to this behavior in the people that raise them.

I don't advocate single parents and my belief is that children need role
models of each sex for a physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally
healthy upbringing. However, one non-addcited person is better than one
non-addicted and one addicted together.

I speak from the painful experience of recovering from drug and alcohol
addiction myself 15 years ago. Addiction is not something I wanted my
children to experience first hand.

Dawn
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In a message dated 9/2/01 10:06:02 AM US Eastern Standard Time,
NumoAstro@... writes:


> However, one non-addcited person is better than one
> non-addicted and one addicted together.
>
> I speak from the painful experience of recovering from drug and alcohol
> addiction myself 15 years ago. Addiction is not something I wanted my
> children to experience first hand.
>

i guess i should've clarified a bit more. my ex will not be living in the
home. before he went in to rehab i told him he wasn't to call here at all,
and i began refusing him to talk to ds because i never knew if he was
straight or not. and while his calls seemed to please ds in the short run,
he'd go through an extremely emotional period after the calls.

so, for a 3.5 yr old boy, is not allowing this contact properly protective or
over controlling?

brenda


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