attachment parenting, awareness
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Attachment parenting is a term used a lot in La Leche League, and I think
they have the term from a book called _The Continuum Concept_." There are
undoubtedly webpages. <g>
In the forum (www.unschooling.com, which I wish everyone here would use more
so this mailing list could be used more peacefully and efficiently), several
discussions in the past year or two have mentioned parents becoming more
aware.
I'm making this definition up here for the very first time, and I'm not
defining a term, but discussion what I think those posts have been about.
The awareness they're talking about is awareness of the child's mood, needs,
frustration level, secret wishes, developmental limitations, etc. Basing
decisions on the child's being, his altogetherness, instead of what he SHOULD
be knowing for his age or the hour of the day, or what he SHOULD be doing by
the parents wishes or personal plans, or what he SHOULD be wanting or
thinking. Being aware of what really *is* above and before what should, by
some external measures or traditions, be.
This awareness invariably involves compassion, in the discussions I can
remember in the forum. It has to do with the relationship between THAT
parent and THAT child in that moment, and with a huge bond of patient,
accepting love.
Sandra
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they have the term from a book called _The Continuum Concept_." There are
undoubtedly webpages. <g>
In the forum (www.unschooling.com, which I wish everyone here would use more
so this mailing list could be used more peacefully and efficiently), several
discussions in the past year or two have mentioned parents becoming more
aware.
I'm making this definition up here for the very first time, and I'm not
defining a term, but discussion what I think those posts have been about.
The awareness they're talking about is awareness of the child's mood, needs,
frustration level, secret wishes, developmental limitations, etc. Basing
decisions on the child's being, his altogetherness, instead of what he SHOULD
be knowing for his age or the hour of the day, or what he SHOULD be doing by
the parents wishes or personal plans, or what he SHOULD be wanting or
thinking. Being aware of what really *is* above and before what should, by
some external measures or traditions, be.
This awareness invariably involves compassion, in the discussions I can
remember in the forum. It has to do with the relationship between THAT
parent and THAT child in that moment, and with a huge bond of patient,
accepting love.
Sandra
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I like your definition!
My husband and I don't do labels very well, but we are very attached
parents. However, many would deny that we are attached parents
because we don't meet 100% of the definition everytime of those that
attachment parent.
Labels are a big problem. One of the big pluses of homeschooling and
unschooling is that you can step outside the stereotypical
definitions and labels, not be so completed glued to a concept or
definition that you fail to see the good in other ways of doing
things.
Compassion ... and also awareness as you say ... is a very big part
of this openminded approach and its something we should all remind
ourselves of regularly ... not just compassion for our children or
our family, but compassion and understanding for others, those who
may or may not operate differently than ourselves in their homelives
or educational methods.
Kathy
My husband and I don't do labels very well, but we are very attached
parents. However, many would deny that we are attached parents
because we don't meet 100% of the definition everytime of those that
attachment parent.
Labels are a big problem. One of the big pluses of homeschooling and
unschooling is that you can step outside the stereotypical
definitions and labels, not be so completed glued to a concept or
definition that you fail to see the good in other ways of doing
things.
Compassion ... and also awareness as you say ... is a very big part
of this openminded approach and its something we should all remind
ourselves of regularly ... not just compassion for our children or
our family, but compassion and understanding for others, those who
may or may not operate differently than ourselves in their homelives
or educational methods.
Kathy
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., SandraDodd@a... wrote:
> Attachment parenting is a term used a lot in La Leche League, and I
think
> they have the term from a book called _The Continuum Concept_."
There are
> undoubtedly webpages. <g>
>
> In the forum (www.unschooling.com, which I wish everyone here would
use more
> so this mailing list could be used more peacefully and
efficiently), several
> discussions in the past year or two have mentioned parents becoming
more
> aware.
>
> I'm making this definition up here for the very first time, and I'm
not
> defining a term, but discussion what I think those posts have been
about.
> The awareness they're talking about is awareness of the child's
mood, needs,
> frustration level, secret wishes, developmental limitations, etc.
Basing
> decisions on the child's being, his altogetherness, instead of what
he SHOULD
> be knowing for his age or the hour of the day, or what he SHOULD be
doing by
> the parents wishes or personal plans, or what he SHOULD be wanting
or
> thinking. Being aware of what really *is* above and before what
should, by
> some external measures or traditions, be.
>
> This awareness invariably involves compassion, in the discussions I
can
> remember in the forum. It has to do with the relationship between
THAT
> parent and THAT child in that moment, and with a huge bond of
patient,
> accepting love.
>
> Sandra
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Jon and Rue Kream
After reading the first post that used the term aware parenting, I looked it
up on google and came up with some books and a website, if anyone's
interested in looking into it. ~Rue
-----Original Message-----
From: SandraDodd@... [mailto:SandraDodd@...]
Sent: Saturday, May 19, 2001 1:08 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] attachment parenting, awareness
Attachment parenting is a term used a lot in La Leche League, and I think
they have the term from a book called _The Continuum Concept_." There are
undoubtedly webpages. <g>
In the forum (www.unschooling.com, which I wish everyone here would use more
so this mailing list could be used more peacefully and efficiently), several
discussions in the past year or two have mentioned parents becoming more
aware.
I'm making this definition up here for the very first time, and I'm not
defining a term, but discussion what I think those posts have been about.
The awareness they're talking about is awareness of the child's mood, needs,
frustration level, secret wishes, developmental limitations, etc. Basing
decisions on the child's being, his altogetherness, instead of what he
SHOULD
be knowing for his age or the hour of the day, or what he SHOULD be doing by
the parents wishes or personal plans, or what he SHOULD be wanting or
thinking. Being aware of what really *is* above and before what should, by
some external measures or traditions, be.
This awareness invariably involves compassion, in the discussions I can
remember in the forum. It has to do with the relationship between THAT
parent and THAT child in that moment, and with a huge bond of patient,
accepting love.
Sandra
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-----Original Message-----
From: SandraDodd@... [mailto:SandraDodd@...]
Sent: Saturday, May 19, 2001 1:08 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] attachment parenting, awareness
Attachment parenting is a term used a lot in La Leche League, and I think
they have the term from a book called _The Continuum Concept_." There are
undoubtedly webpages. <g>
In the forum (www.unschooling.com, which I wish everyone here would use more
so this mailing list could be used more peacefully and efficiently), several
discussions in the past year or two have mentioned parents becoming more
aware.
I'm making this definition up here for the very first time, and I'm not
defining a term, but discussion what I think those posts have been about.
The awareness they're talking about is awareness of the child's mood, needs,
frustration level, secret wishes, developmental limitations, etc. Basing
decisions on the child's being, his altogetherness, instead of what he
SHOULD
be knowing for his age or the hour of the day, or what he SHOULD be doing by
the parents wishes or personal plans, or what he SHOULD be wanting or
thinking. Being aware of what really *is* above and before what should, by
some external measures or traditions, be.
This awareness invariably involves compassion, in the discussions I can
remember in the forum. It has to do with the relationship between THAT
parent and THAT child in that moment, and with a huge bond of patient,
accepting love.
Sandra
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Betsy Hill
>I call this mindful parenting - Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn have written aI only have an itty, bitty, baby understanding of Buddhism, but I imagine
>book called Everyday Blessings that discusses this type of parenting.
>When I first heard of unschooling, I realized that it was a practice
>of mindful parenting - accepting your child for who s/he is in the moment
>and supporting them.
>
>Mindful is a term Buddhists use and awareness is certainly a part of it.
>It is much deeper than that though!
>
it would fit well with Unschooling. The idea of not being too attached to
the outcome of the situation seems like it would help quell the desire to
buy curriculum packages.
Betsy
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In a message dated 5/19/01 12:59:11 PM, crma@... writes:
<< I call this mindful parenting - Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn have written a
book called Everyday Blessings that discusses this type of parenting. >>
I think I first learned it (but not by that name, and that's the perfect
name; my term was lame, sorry) in Whole Parent, Whole Child (authors
Berrends?).
Thanks for the better description, Cindy.
Sandra
<< I call this mindful parenting - Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn have written a
book called Everyday Blessings that discusses this type of parenting. >>
I think I first learned it (but not by that name, and that's the perfect
name; my term was lame, sorry) in Whole Parent, Whole Child (authors
Berrends?).
Thanks for the better description, Cindy.
Sandra