LisaBugg

During my time working within the AOLhomeschooling forum we discovered that
one of the best rules of thumb was not to respond to *the person* but to the
*idea/topic*. If you find yourself needing to speak to HOW something is
said, whether you think it's rude or sarscastic or whatever, that needs to
be done privately. If you are responding to the information given itself,
either by agreeing or disagreeing or adding more or correcting what you see
as incorrect, these go to the list. This keeps the list from degenerating
into "you were rude: - no I wasn't, you were". Those kind of exchanges just
clutter up our mailboxes.

Individual writing styles vary a great deal. One person can sound terribly
harsh when it was completely untendend or another person can overreact to a
plainly stated comment. Without body language and tones of voice, email
becomes one of the hardest ways to communicate. I always read something as
if my best friend is sitting in my own home having coffee or tea with me.
When I run up on something that grates, I give the benefit of the doubt and
move on. Or I write privately and ask for clarifcation.

Thanks, LisaKK

Kim Baker

Lisa.... I think this just may be the best piece
of advice that I have heard in a very long time!
Bravo!


--- LisaBugg <LisaBugg@...> wrote:
>
> During my time working within the
> AOLhomeschooling forum we discovered that
> one of the best rules of thumb was not to
> respond to *the person* but to the
> *idea/topic*. If you find yourself needing
> to speak to HOW something is
> said, whether you think it's rude or
> sarscastic or whatever, that needs to
> be done privately. If you are responding to
> the information given itself,
> either by agreeing or disagreeing or adding
> more or correcting what you see
> as incorrect, these go to the list. This keeps
> the list from degenerating
> into "you were rude: - no I wasn't, you were".
> Those kind of exchanges just
> clutter up our mailboxes.
>
> Individual writing styles vary a great deal.
> One person can sound terribly
> harsh when it was completely untendend or
> another person can overreact to a
> plainly stated comment. Without body language
> and tones of voice, email
> becomes one of the hardest ways to communicate.
> I always read something as
> if my best friend is sitting in my own home
> having coffee or tea with me.
> When I run up on something that grates, I give
> the benefit of the doubt and
> move on. Or I write privately and ask for
> clarifcation.
>
> Thanks, LisaKK
>
>
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Kim - Missouri MOM of Dylan(11) Jacob(10) Noah(21 mos)

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