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In a message dated 4/26/01 9:29:38 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< His cousin might do the actually marrying part...the
official part...being a notary and all, but instead of
having her, or one specific person give a speech of
some sort, we were thinking of having each person in
our wedding party come up and say a few words about
marriage or love. Just short ones, and not about US,
but about love or marriage in general. Then his cousin
come up and do the official part.
Any ideas along those lines? >>

I like the concept but beware of length. We had a JP and a friend of the
family do a bit part. I do not remember a word he said. I was sweltering in
the sun and about to topple off the stone wall embankment we were upon.
Granted we got married 4th of July weekend in PA. At least I was barefoot and
the grass felt cooler.

Many people still talk of our wedding as the coolest they have been to
but I can't remember much of it. We made the rounds and didn't even get half
of our dinner. The damn photographer kept stealing us. I loathed him,we never
did buy any photos.

Our men wore white shirts and blue shorts and Tevas the girls wore blue
dress w/ white flowers, something they could wear to another gathering
easily. Any shoes they wanted any jewlery they wanted and so on. Guests were
invited to wear shorts or whatever. It was a semi formal outdoor wedding on
my parents farm. The JP said an Indian Prayer and we were married. Oh and one
of the guys was stung by a bee while standing there. All our pics have him w/
a giant welt on his forehead.

If I had to do it over again I would pick somewhere special to us and
casually invite those who wanted to attend. No stress, no fuss, and all fun.
Actually I'd go w/ dh and get married alone on some awesome singletrack. I
have tried to tell all of my cousins to run away but no one listens. they are
spending gobs and are stressing big time and family tiffs are popping up all
around. Not worth it.

OK sorry about that :o) Can you tell I am still a bit miffed about my
wedding? Although we still call my dh assy from time to time<that is what my
Grandmother called him that day>. UGH!

NICKI~ happily married to the greatest guy I personally know.