doubts and thoughts
kalima
Hey all. I know I don't post often. Seems like since I joined the list
my kids have been taking turns with one cold after another. And lately
it has been my turn to sit in the bed with a box of tissues as well.
Anyhow I just need to share. Maybe get something off my chest. I am sure
people have doubts when they are homeschooling if they are doing the
right thing. And sometimes I think the doubts are easier to get into
when we unschool. I recently saw something on tv that had a
homeschooling family in it and the kids were all sitting nicely at the
table doing work out of book. I thought isnt that sweet. Then looked
around at my family and thought gees maybe I should be pushing more for
them to do "real" work. Like books and paper and such. Of course a few
mintues later I was thinking what the heck just got into me. I want my
kids to be individuals and learn at thier own pace and learn what they
want and discover along the way who they are. But sometimes I wonder
about the choices I make as a parent.
Maybe it is harder since it seems I find so little in common with
famlies here locally. I don't know many families that do family bed or
use cloth diapers or breastfeed past a few months. My choices I make
informed and I makes choices that will best suit my family and our
situation but when the rest of the world goes along it is hard to keep
the beat of your own drum.
I really don't know what my point is. *L* Gee maybe that is my problem.
(Or I need some sleep.) I guess I just need to get it off my chest I
sort of feel like at times I am going against the grain and wonder how
my kids will turn out and if I am doing the right thing. I am glad this
list is here. At least I can read there are really other families out
there with similar ideas and ways of doing things as we do.
Shelly
mom to 5
Connecticut
my kids have been taking turns with one cold after another. And lately
it has been my turn to sit in the bed with a box of tissues as well.
Anyhow I just need to share. Maybe get something off my chest. I am sure
people have doubts when they are homeschooling if they are doing the
right thing. And sometimes I think the doubts are easier to get into
when we unschool. I recently saw something on tv that had a
homeschooling family in it and the kids were all sitting nicely at the
table doing work out of book. I thought isnt that sweet. Then looked
around at my family and thought gees maybe I should be pushing more for
them to do "real" work. Like books and paper and such. Of course a few
mintues later I was thinking what the heck just got into me. I want my
kids to be individuals and learn at thier own pace and learn what they
want and discover along the way who they are. But sometimes I wonder
about the choices I make as a parent.
Maybe it is harder since it seems I find so little in common with
famlies here locally. I don't know many families that do family bed or
use cloth diapers or breastfeed past a few months. My choices I make
informed and I makes choices that will best suit my family and our
situation but when the rest of the world goes along it is hard to keep
the beat of your own drum.
I really don't know what my point is. *L* Gee maybe that is my problem.
(Or I need some sleep.) I guess I just need to get it off my chest I
sort of feel like at times I am going against the grain and wonder how
my kids will turn out and if I am doing the right thing. I am glad this
list is here. At least I can read there are really other families out
there with similar ideas and ways of doing things as we do.
Shelly
mom to 5
Connecticut
Sonia Ulan
kalima wrote:
I think most of us feel this way at one time or another. Have
confidence in the fact that you are not alone and there are TONS of
people out there who are like you and who are making many of the same
choices. So what if we are not in the majority? I think it takes great
courage to go against the grain...most leaders, artists and historical
figures became who they were because they had the courage to stand alone
and be unique. You can feel good about what you are doing for your
family. Kids, families, relationships, etc. are not factory issue. We
can't possibly all be the same. And the more rare something is, usually
the more valuable it is!
Sonia
A mother who sometimes has doubts too...
>I guess I just need to get it off my chest I
>
> Anyhow I just need to share.
> sort of feel like at times I am going against the grain and wonder howHi Shelly;
> my kids will turn out and if I am doing the right thing. I am glad this
> list is here. At least I can read there are really other families out
> there with similar ideas and ways of doing things as we do.
>
> Shelly
> mom to 5
> Connecticut
>
>
I think most of us feel this way at one time or another. Have
confidence in the fact that you are not alone and there are TONS of
people out there who are like you and who are making many of the same
choices. So what if we are not in the majority? I think it takes great
courage to go against the grain...most leaders, artists and historical
figures became who they were because they had the courage to stand alone
and be unique. You can feel good about what you are doing for your
family. Kids, families, relationships, etc. are not factory issue. We
can't possibly all be the same. And the more rare something is, usually
the more valuable it is!
Sonia
A mother who sometimes has doubts too...
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I love this list for the same reasons Shelly. Its nice to have this to
retreat to when the world around me gets those doubts going...
Dawn
retreat to when the world around me gets those doubts going...
Dawn
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In a message dated 2/1/01 1:15:07 AM Mountain Standard Time,
kalima@... writes:
kalima@... writes:
But sometimes I wonder
about the choices I make as a parent.
That is so cool.
There are parents who NEVER wonder. They just get up, send their kids to
school, come home, tell the kids to do homework (or not), and no matter how
badly it might go, the parents feel no responsibility for the outcome. There
are millions of them, who never wonder about the choices they make, because
their lives are arranged so that they MADE no choices.
Sandra
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In a message dated 2/1/2001 7:41:29 AM Pacific Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
How true! I know many parents who are like that. It is sad isn't it?
Children are our greatest resource, the leaders, builders and creators of
tomorrow - they are a treasure and should be treated as such!
Thanks for reminding me that there is a good side to all this doubt and
"mother worry" that I do!
Dawn
SandraDodd@... writes:
That is so cool.
There are parents who NEVER wonder. They just get up, send their kids to
school, come home, tell the kids to do homework (or not), and no matter how
badly it might go, the parents feel no responsibility for the outcome.
There
are millions of them, who never wonder about the choices they make, because
their lives are arranged so that they MADE no choices.
Sandra
How true! I know many parents who are like that. It is sad isn't it?
Children are our greatest resource, the leaders, builders and creators of
tomorrow - they are a treasure and should be treated as such!
Thanks for reminding me that there is a good side to all this doubt and
"mother worry" that I do!
Dawn
[email protected]
In a message dated 02/01/2001 3:41:19 PM !!!First Boot!!!, SandraDodd@...
writes:
writes:
There
are millions of them, who never wonder about the choices they make, because
their lives are arranged so that they MADE no choices.
Sandra
And I think that's sad -- not their fault, but sad. That's just how they
were taught and raised.
I have been having a real itch lately to reach out to all the parents in the
universe and say "You have choices!"
Not one practical idea on how to do that or if it should even be done, but it
does seem like a lot of people are trying to make decisions (like the whole
education reform/testing/vouchers/etc. plan in the legislative works now)
without even knowing what all their options might be.
Let's see, everyone completely restructure your lives to fix
education-related problems and everything else.
There -- that should do it.
Nance
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<snip> it does seem like a lot of people are trying to make decisions
(like the whole
education reform/testing/vouchers/etc. plan in the legislative works now)
without even knowing what all their options might be.
It wasn't until after I'd already decided to try homeschooling and began
to research it, that I learned that my state doesn't even require
children to receive an education until after age 8. A child who is age 6
before Sep 1 can enter first grade whether or not that child has attended
kindergarten. This certainly isn't common knowledge! For that matter, a
large number of people are led to believe that pre-school is "critical"
to a child's education.
Mary Ellen
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<Hi and Lois>
(like the whole
education reform/testing/vouchers/etc. plan in the legislative works now)
without even knowing what all their options might be.
It wasn't until after I'd already decided to try homeschooling and began
to research it, that I learned that my state doesn't even require
children to receive an education until after age 8. A child who is age 6
before Sep 1 can enter first grade whether or not that child has attended
kindergarten. This certainly isn't common knowledge! For that matter, a
large number of people are led to believe that pre-school is "critical"
to a child's education.
Mary Ellen
Gain weight... Stay Active... Get Smarter...
New Year's Resolutions are EASY for Babies!
<Hi and Lois>