Casey Shelley

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>>Message: 21
> Date: Mon, 15 Jan 2001 09:22:23 -0000
> From: tonitoni@...
>Subject: Casey
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>Casey
>My dd is 12yrs old. We have only been h/s unschooling for 8 months
>and like your son, she is very unmotivated. She is very anti
>anything that smells of school. And like you I was getting very
>frustrated.
>I have a friend who will climb into bed with her son when she isn't
>talking to her husband, and he is 18yrs old!!!!!
>I think it is pretty cool that yoou have such a close relationship
>with your son.
>My dd used to climb in bed with me almost every night when my husband
>worked away.
>marianne
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Thanks Marianne :-
I am feeling better by the minute as I read these wonderful responses. Thank
you for your support!
-C
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>TV and video games can really motivate people you know.
I did not know this, thank you! ;-)
I know of so many
>boys whose parents worried about lack of motivation but their dedication to
>their children's autonomy meant that they didn't try to interfere. They
>still made suggestions, invitations, and were available, but didn't stop
>what was going on in the children's heads. I have seen games turn into so
>much creativity. Whole civiisations being created, trading cards beign
>designed, enactments of videos, and I have seen what appeared to be just
>plain laziness. My opinion is that it is okay. Once anybody finds
>something which motivates them, they are on it, they do it. Kids don't need
>to practice anything by doing stuff that is boring or that they hate, just
>so they will be ready later in life to do what they want to do .
>
If you realize your own goals, that is the best lesson
>that you children can learn. If they see you doing something you want to
>do, making it happen, then they will learn that when it is thier turn, they
>can do the same, and you will be there to help them.
>Very good, Julie, again, another excellent point. I think I let myself get
>too worked up and worried when things aren't going the way I think they are
>"supposed to."
>
>Did you ever have a family bed with your 11-year-old or any of your other
>children? >
This one is from Amy, right? :-)
No, we've never had a family bed, even though the boys and I would have
preferred it. dh didn't particularly care for the idea :-( Don't like to
admit it, but...
The boys shared their room until about a year ago. Oldest ds asked for it. I
still slept with him when they shared, too. We recently got a bigger bed for
the youngest now, so I could sleep with him, too! :-)
Thanks so much for everyone's help! I can't tell you how much all of this
means!
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