Bill & Sher

candice
>What are his specific fears and concerns?

Just that he has never seen it done sucessful. I am a hands on learner so I want to teach that way. At least until I see my chilren wanting to learn in another way. He just doesnt see why try something that has "failed." I can see how to make it succeed because it is basicly the way I learn.


Amalia,
> I think you might be interested in the book, "The Relaxed Home School: A
>Family Production" by Mary Hood.

I have seen that biij=k in ebay from time to time. It is good to know that it wiill be helpful. Thanks


Chris
>I have to laugh at the question, "Is it unschooling or laziness?" I ask
>myself that very thing regularly. It is just so incredibly different than
>the model of schooling most of us know. I'm pretty sure that most people I
>know would consider unschooling shear laziness. I always say "the proof is
>in the pudding". It is a shame that there are hs families out there that
>are seen as raising uncontrollable children or not educating them properly.
>Take a look at their ps counterparts; uncontrollable? uneducated? I would
>suppose that's part of the reason we all choose to unschool.

I am glad to hear you question youself from time to time. And your success.


Marianne
>I read all these posts with interest. I have educated my daughter
>for the last 6 months - before that she was in school, and I am
>thinking how lucky i am that my husband lets us get on with it. I
>have no oppositon from him ............................ but then I
>realized that I have never actually *told him* that we dont do school
>any more!!! I am not sure how he would take it........
>He sees this happy confident independant helpful daughter, a GREAT
>change from the sad argumentative child that she used to be, and
>comments how good h/s is for her.
>I think I might just leave it like that !!!!!

I have thought about just doing it and showing him how good we are doing than telling him we unschool. He really is letting me choose what I use for school. But when I speak about unschooling or read articles on it...He gets worried our daughter wont have the knowledge she needs to suceed.

Thanks everyone for your help
Sher


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Elizabeth McCullough

Hi, I'm new to the list and new to homeschooling/unschooling.

Sher, I know that my parents will have many of the same concerns about
'success' that your husband is expressing. Often I do as well. Perhaps it
would be helpful to gently explore what your husband means by 'success.'
Success is a word that's thrown around a lot with the expectation that
everyone "knows" what it means but I find that on closer examination it
doesn't mean much of anything. Is success earning a lot of money? Being
happy? Knowing more than other people? Knowing all the capitals of the 50
states? Going to college? Succeed at what -- school? business? college?
relationships? civic life? child-rearing? What body of knowledge is
common or necessary to all of these endeavors?

Compulsory public schooling thrives on the unexamined assumption that we're
all pursuing "success," and that it's the same kind of success for everyone,
and that the experts are the only ones who can make you successful. What
hardly anyone ever stops to ask is whether it's necessary to be successful
at all.

Elizabeth McCullough
Virginia

-----Original Message-----
From: Bill & Sher [mailto:yet_will_i_trust.him@...]
Sent: Wednesday, October 25, 2000 1:05 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: help convincing hubby (long)
<SNIP>

I have thought about just doing it and showing him how good we are doing
than telling him we unschool. He really is letting me choose what I use for
school. But when I speak about unschooling or read articles on it...He gets
worried our daughter wont have the knowledge she needs to suceed.

Thanks everyone for your help
Sher

A. Yates

Elizabeth,
I think you are a very successful unschooler. :)
Question everything...take nothing at face value.
Or, maybe that is just me.
I happen to admire this in a person.
Thanks for your post.
Ann

Elizabeth McCullough wrote:

> Hi, I'm new to the list and new to homeschooling/unschooling.
>
> Sher, I know that my parents will have many of the same concerns about
> 'success' that your husband is expressing. Often I do as well. Perhaps it
> would be helpful to gently explore what your husband means by 'success.'
> Success is a word that's thrown around a lot with the expectation that
> everyone "knows" what it means but I find that on closer examination it
> doesn't mean much of anything. Is success earning a lot of money? Being
> happy? Knowing more than other people? Knowing all the capitals of the 50
> states? Going to college? Succeed at what -- school? business? college?
> relationships? civic life? child-rearing? What body of knowledge is
> common or necessary to all of these endeavors?
>
> Compulsory public schooling thrives on the unexamined assumption that we're
> all pursuing "success," and that it's the same kind of success for everyone,
> and that the experts are the only ones who can make you successful. What
> hardly anyone ever stops to ask is whether it's necessary to be successful
> at all.
>
> Elizabeth McCullough
> Virginia
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Bill & Sher [mailto:yet_will_i_trust.him@...]
> Sent: Wednesday, October 25, 2000 1:05 PM
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: help convincing hubby (long)
> <SNIP>
>
> I have thought about just doing it and showing him how good we are doing
> than telling him we unschool. He really is letting me choose what I use for
> school. But when I speak about unschooling or read articles on it...He gets
> worried our daughter wont have the knowledge she needs to suceed.
>
> Thanks everyone for your help
> Sher
>
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Sher:

My husband was where your dh is about a year ago. We had a friend who, as a
single mom, basically practiced "educational neglect" but called it
homeschooling. She worked full time, but had little time for her son, never
went to the library or bought him materials, etc. We said her son was being
raised by the TV and the dog.

When I started talking about unschooling, this was what my dh envisioned.

After reading him stuff aloud, and perhaps emphasizing WHAT we would be doing
and not stressing the word "unschooling" for a while, he's now an
enthusiastic supporter of the unschooling philosophy. It just took a little
time and information.

:-) Diane

> Just that he has never seen it done sucessful. I am a hands on learner so
I
> want to teach that way. At least until I see my chilren wanting to learn
in
> another way. He just doesnt see why try something that has "failed." I
can
> see how to make it succeed because it is basicly the way I learn.