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My extremely sensitive daughter reaches this point many times over a course
of a week or two. What I found that works...is getting on the floor with her
(even if she is thrashing about) and speaking to her quietly. Soon, she is
in my lap, I stroke her hair and have her do deep breathing with me....after
about 6months of this she can most of the time calm herself and does not need
me to "swat her bottom" to get her in the moment.....

Julie

Pris

ohhhhh, flashback ... my mother used to sit w/ me on the floor when I had
one of my infamous temper tantrums ... she very lovingly held me on her lap,
kissed my little face and kept her pot so we could catch all my *cry drips*
... this *usually* made us both start laughing ...

Pris
WARNING: I cannot be help responsible for the above, as apparently my cats
have learned how to type ...


----- Original Message -----
From: <Jaam1224@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, September 04, 2000 12:41 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] calming hystria
>
> My extremely sensitive daughter reaches this point many times over a
course
> of a week or two. What I found that works...is getting on the floor with
her
> (even if she is thrashing about) and speaking to her quietly. Soon, she
is
> in my lap, I stroke her hair and have her do deep breathing with
me....after
> about 6months of this she can most of the time calm herself and does not
need
> me to "swat her bottom" to get her in the moment.....
>
> Julie

Susan (mother to 5 in Fla)

Julie Thank you for this idea. I'm going to try it. I'm so afraid my ds
will hurt himself when he goes into one of his "out of control". I've tried
holding him & talking to him softly but that takes so long. I used to take
1-2 hours now 30-45 minutes. But when the moment passes he's such a sweetie
& like he doesn't know it ever happened. Later he'll tell me he's having a
really bad day. I've tried swats (through pants & only enough to feel) a
few times but that doesn't work at all so it's been dropped. But your idea
of laying next to him & talking is worth a try.

Lynda

Susan,

Does he have any favorite music or a really favorite story, one that he can
listen to over and over again?? We used music and reading to calm addicted
babies while we held them tight (actually swaddled them) and rocked them in
a rocking chair. Based on this, it has been tried with extremely
hyper-sensitive children and works for them as well.

Lynda

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> From: Susan (mother to 5 in Fla) <samiot@...>
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: RE: [Unschooling-dotcom] calming hystria
> Date: Monday, September 04, 2000 4:42 PM
>
>
> Julie Thank you for this idea. I'm going to try it. I'm so afraid my ds
> will hurt himself when he goes into one of his "out of control". I've
tried
> holding him & talking to him softly but that takes so long. I used to
take
> 1-2 hours now 30-45 minutes. But when the moment passes he's such a
sweetie
> & like he doesn't know it ever happened. Later he'll tell me he's having
a
> really bad day. I've tried swats (through pants & only enough to feel) a
> few times but that doesn't work at all so it's been dropped. But your
idea
> of laying next to him & talking is worth a try.
>
>
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Susan (mother to 5 in Fla)

Thank you Lynda, I'll give it a try. I've used this when traveling in the
car but hadn't thought of it for general use.