Valerie

Hi Corallyn (love your name, btw)

I'm not going to get into the spanking debate (yet...only one cup of coffee)
but I have noticed with myself, my husband, our family and friends, and yes
here on these lists.....that when people are stressed, they tend to become
controlling. If your husband is working all the time, he must be tired and
stressed. This (along with his own upbringing) may cause him to feel he
needs to "keep the kids in line". I know when I'm having a good day, I
pretty much let things go as far as the kids spilling things or forgetting
something, etc. But when I'm having a stressful day, these things somehow
become important and I over-react. If it's a real "issue" (like one hitting
the other) then my reaction is the same, but the volume of my voice is
greater under stress, I know. I don't know if this helps, but I was hoping
if you could understand _why_ your husband felt this way, you could better
handle it.

My recommended reading is "Dare to Discipline" by James Dobson....discipline
meaning to correct and lead, not thrash.

----Valerie

Valerie

Dawn

I bet you're making a lot of friends in Tennesee and W. Virginia
now....Where in the world are you that you would make such a remark? Some
place of great enlightenment I imagine. I have always lived in the land of
lattes...the Pacific North West, a rather eclectic place where you will find
all kinds of people. Even people who do choose not to spank. And I don't
insult them.

---Valerie