kgutty67

Whooohooo!!!

I did it, and it felt GOOD.

Out and about for errands yesterday we drove past a shop my 14 yo
had seen once before. It's called 1300AD, medieval weaponry etc.
My dd loves this stuff, sparked by the 'Redwall' series. She
mentioned she'd like to go in one day when we had time.

You should have seen the smile on her face when I turned the car
around and parked in front of the shop. The next half hour she
spent wallowing in flashes of silver and the smell of sweaty leather
(they teach swordsmanship there too).

She is now enrolled in their basic 6 week course and looking forward
to the tournament held in June near us.

I have been immersing myself in articles about not controlling, not
limiting, not setting the childrens' courses. Believe me when I say
I really have to work hard. I was a hard core dominator for a long
long time. I am trying so hard to be able to say 'yes'. It'll get
easier?....'yes'

Kerryn

Pamela Sorooshian

On Feb 13, 2006, at 6:25 PM, kgutty67 wrote:

> I have been immersing myself in articles about not controlling, not
> limiting, not setting the childrens' courses. Believe me when I say
> I really have to work hard. I was a hard core dominator for a long
> long time. I am trying so hard to be able to say 'yes'. It'll get
> easier?....'yes'

LOOK at the result of not putting her off, of saying "yes" right
now!!! Of course it'll get easier, you just have to look at all
she'll be learning and how much joy you've added to her life. You'll
WANT to keep doing that.

-pam

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Sandra Dodd

On Feb 13, 2006, at 7:25 PM, kgutty67 wrote:

> -=-I have been immersing myself in articles about not controlling, not
> limiting, not setting the childrens' courses. Believe me when I say
> I really have to work hard.-=-


But you did something big today, and that should give you enough
feedback to make it easier next time.

It won't be hard work if you change your principles. I'm guessing if
you've found the "yes" articles you've also found the principles vs.
rules things, but just in case you hadn't, http://sandradodd.com/rules
http://sandradodd.com/benrules

If the principle is to work hard, you will continue to "have to" work
hard.
If the principle is to create an environment of opportunities and joy
for your children, then the decisions will not be hard work.

Believe me when I say you do NOT really have to work hard. You could
put your children in school, but somehow you chose to homeschool.
You chose that.
You could be using a curriculum, but for some reason you chose
unschooling. You didn't have to.

You could have driven right by that shop, but you chose to pull in.
You did not "have to."

I don't believe you when you say you really "have to" work hard. <g>
I believe you believe it, though.
Easy change to make, to see your own power to choose or to feel
powerless.

You have choices and make them every moment. Help your children have
opportunities to do so as well.

http://sandradodd.com/haveto

Sandra