OT; missing homeschooled teenager
Ren Allen
"Just because Sandra says her kids would never run away from home does
not
mean that they never would, nor that other unschool kids wouldn't."
It's really hard for me to wrap my mind around one of Sandra's kids
EVER running away. I can't imagine any child running away in a home
that lives the way we're advocating here.
If Trevor really didn't want to live with us, I'd help him find a way
to get out. He wouldn't NEED to run away. When you are your child's
advocate, when you want to help them get what they want, what would be
the motivation for running away?
Running away is an ESCAPE. It's getting out of a situation you don't
feel you have control over. I was a teen that wanted with all my
might to run away at times. My parents didn't do things at ALL the way
we advocate here. If that boy trusted his parents, if he knew they'd
help him get what HE wanted, he wouldn't have left without telling
them. They broke his trust.
Ren
not
mean that they never would, nor that other unschool kids wouldn't."
It's really hard for me to wrap my mind around one of Sandra's kids
EVER running away. I can't imagine any child running away in a home
that lives the way we're advocating here.
If Trevor really didn't want to live with us, I'd help him find a way
to get out. He wouldn't NEED to run away. When you are your child's
advocate, when you want to help them get what they want, what would be
the motivation for running away?
Running away is an ESCAPE. It's getting out of a situation you don't
feel you have control over. I was a teen that wanted with all my
might to run away at times. My parents didn't do things at ALL the way
we advocate here. If that boy trusted his parents, if he knew they'd
help him get what HE wanted, he wouldn't have left without telling
them. They broke his trust.
Ren
Barb Lundgren
Certainly true, and will always be true... but things can change, sometimes
in ways we cannot predict, given outside circumstances, mental illnesses,
new influences, etc. Who is to say? I am confident I can adapt to
anything, and offer a safe haven for my kids under all circumstances, but I
have seen enough and read enough biography and autobiography over the years
to know that shit happens. I don't think it will ever happen to me either,
because it never has. Life is a mysterious process sometimes and we figure
it out as we go along and help our kids to do the same.
Barb
E-mail: barb.lundgren@...
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness
has genius, power, and magic in it." Goethe
From: "Ren Allen" <starsuncloud@...>
Reply-To: [email protected]
Date: Wed, 23 Nov 2005 00:56:41 -0000
To: [email protected]
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] OT; missing homeschooled teenager
"Just because Sandra says her kids would never run away from home does
not
mean that they never would, nor that other unschool kids wouldn't."
It's really hard for me to wrap my mind around one of Sandra's kids
EVER running away. I can't imagine any child running away in a home
that lives the way we're advocating here.
If Trevor really didn't want to live with us, I'd help him find a way
to get out. He wouldn't NEED to run away. When you are your child's
advocate, when you want to help them get what they want, what would be
the motivation for running away?
Running away is an ESCAPE. It's getting out of a situation you don't
feel you have control over. I was a teen that wanted with all my
might to run away at times. My parents didn't do things at ALL the way
we advocate here. If that boy trusted his parents, if he knew they'd
help him get what HE wanted, he wouldn't have left without telling
them. They broke his trust.
Ren
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in ways we cannot predict, given outside circumstances, mental illnesses,
new influences, etc. Who is to say? I am confident I can adapt to
anything, and offer a safe haven for my kids under all circumstances, but I
have seen enough and read enough biography and autobiography over the years
to know that shit happens. I don't think it will ever happen to me either,
because it never has. Life is a mysterious process sometimes and we figure
it out as we go along and help our kids to do the same.
Barb
E-mail: barb.lundgren@...
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness
has genius, power, and magic in it." Goethe
From: "Ren Allen" <starsuncloud@...>
Reply-To: [email protected]
Date: Wed, 23 Nov 2005 00:56:41 -0000
To: [email protected]
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] OT; missing homeschooled teenager
"Just because Sandra says her kids would never run away from home does
not
mean that they never would, nor that other unschool kids wouldn't."
It's really hard for me to wrap my mind around one of Sandra's kids
EVER running away. I can't imagine any child running away in a home
that lives the way we're advocating here.
If Trevor really didn't want to live with us, I'd help him find a way
to get out. He wouldn't NEED to run away. When you are your child's
advocate, when you want to help them get what they want, what would be
the motivation for running away?
Running away is an ESCAPE. It's getting out of a situation you don't
feel you have control over. I was a teen that wanted with all my
might to run away at times. My parents didn't do things at ALL the way
we advocate here. If that boy trusted his parents, if he knew they'd
help him get what HE wanted, he wouldn't have left without telling
them. They broke his trust.
Ren
"List Posting Policies" are provided in the files area of this group.
Visit the Unschooling website and message boards:
<http://www.unschooling.info>
Yahoo! Groups Links
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