Beth Erb

Corallyn,

I know this issue from both sides, my DF was a cop for 18 yrs and still
does security jobs on the side. I was alwasys very worried about daddy
getting hurt on the job but my parents handled it in a way that I really
didn't worry about it till later in life. The main thing I remember us
doing is that we made a big deal of him weaaring his bullet-proof vest,
he would start getting ready for work and would have me bring it to him
and help him make sure it was on correctly. I know that helped me.
Ironicly enough my dad was injured on the job (a security jobafter he had
quit the force), not by a shooting but by a reckless driver, it was a
tough fight but he did make it with a minium of problems.

Hope this helps a little.

Back to lurk mode :)
Beth
WAHM to the twin terrors, T.J.(8) and "DrewBug" (6)

> Date: Mon, 10 Jul 2000 22:41:56 -0700 (PDT)
> From: Corallyn Berger <hape2day@...>
> Subject: Son's praying for daddy
>
>
> I have a situation in my home and I doubt any of you
> can relate to it but maybe someone has a suggestion as
> to how to handle this situation. My DH is a police
> officer. And my 5yo son is very aware of what daddy
> does. We have been very open with him about it. It is
> hard not to be when 5 days a week he sees daddy put on
> his uniform with full gear and head out the door for
> work. Well, the other night when DS was saying his
> bedtime prayers one of the things he said was to bless
> daddy not to get shot. He has never said this in his
> prayers before and it really took me by surprize. I
> didn't know what to say to him. Bed time is often
> difficult because he misses daddy. So I asked him if
> that was the reason that he misses daddy so much at
> bedtime and he said it was. He's afraid that DH will
> get shot at work. DS has also said in the past that he
> thinks that DH sits and shoots bad people all night
> long. We have tried to explain to him that this is not
> the case. I don't think he gets it though. The other
> night I didn't want to say that DH wouldn't get shot
> because I don't know that won't happen. That is
> possible however small that likelyhood is. I don't
> want to say this will never happen and then it does.
> Then DS will think I lied to him and he will be right.
> I asked him if I could have some time to think about
> it and then give him and answer. He said that was
> fine. When I talked to DH about it he didn't want to
> make an issue of it with DS. He was afraid that if we
> said anything more to him or made a big deal about it
> then it would further dramatize the idea in DS's head.
> I feel differently. I told him I would think on it and
> then give him and answer and that is what I feel I
> must do. Any suggestions as to what to tell DS about
> daddy gettin shot at work?
>

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