Corallyn Berger

Thank you all so much. After I read everyones posts on
this matter I sat down and to DS that he was right,
Daddy could get shot at work. Then explained that
everybody does things everyday that could cause them
to get hurt. I gave him senarios like driving, playing
outside, and just last week DH was chopping down a
tree with a brand new ax when the head flew off and
landed in my bil's knee (DH's brother). He had to get
stitches but he will be okay. I also told him that it
was possible for a terrible storm to come and blow out
the windows of the house and a tree could fall on the
house as well. Then I said that any of these things
could happen, but they probbably won't. I also gave he
knows about DH's vest and has even tried it on and
worn it around the house. I told him that daddy wears
the vest to protect him in case he gets shot and told
him about an officer in our town just last week who
got shot and went to the hospital and then they sent
him home that night. His vest saved him. (I didn't
tell DS that the officer was also shot in both hands.)
I also told him that it was good for us to pray that
we are all kept safe, not just daddy. He said he felt
a little better after. I think it is something that
still bothers him but I don't think that it will
constantly be in the back of his mind. Thanks again.
--- HPaulson5@... wrote:
> Corallyn, Hi-- my dh is a police officer, too. I
> have a 5 yo son, and a 3 yo
> son, and a 10 mo daughter. For most of my
> children's lives, my dh has worked
> day shift. Sounds like yours is working 3rd shift
> now. Where do you live?
> We live in So. Indiana. You have said that you are
> very open with him...
> how much does he know about police work? Our boys
> really have not asked much
> about getting shot. They have very limited
> knowledge about guns. I think
> our oldest has asked if dh has ever shot anyone,
> and dh told him that he had
> not, and hoped that he never has to. Dh explained
> that the gun was there to
> be used only for protection when he was at work. He
> keeps the explanations
> "short and sweet" at this time in their lives. Then
> he makes sure that the
> kids get exposed to the many aspects of police work,
> such as helping people
> in different ways. They enjoy hearing the sirens on
> the squad car, visiting
> the station, and wearing old uniform shirts. Has
> your son watched much tv
> where police dramas might be on? Or does he have
> friends that have said
> something to scare him , maybe? One thing you can
> do is let your son see the
> protective vest and maybe even put it on, so he can
> see how heavy it is. You
> can help him see how it is there to protect his
> daddy , just in case there
> would ever be a "bad guy" that had a gun. And then
> express that most police
> officers don't get shot and don't use their guns
> very often. Hopefully he
> will begin to feel re-assured. Maybe some library
> books on police officers
> could be helpful, as they are light-hearted in
> nature, and maybe will be
> helpful in lessening his worries. Most of all,
> stress that police officers
> are there to help people, and that is their main
> purpose. Give examples such
> as helping people if their cars break down, helping
> people settle arguments,
> help to find someone who is lost, etc... Just keep
> trying to reinforce the
> other aspects of this line of work, and keep
> reassuring him that most
> officers never have to shoot people, and that most
> officers never get shot.
> I hope this helps a little! Take care. ~Karen
>


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Corallyn Berger wrote:
>
> Thank you all so much. After I read everyones posts on
> this matter I sat down and to DS that he was right,
> Daddy could get shot at work. Then explained that
> everybody does things everyday that could cause them
> to get hurt.

A few years ago there was an article in either our local paper or one of
the Toronto papers about the dangers of different jobs.

Construction workers, tradesmen in heavy industry , people who work in
primary manufacturing and textile mills were more likely to be hurt,
disabled or killed on the job than a police officer.

Police officers jobs were rated as one of the safer jobs.

Maybe this would help comfort your son a little.

Buzz


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Corallyn Berger

I am aware of this. I get confronted by people all the
time on the safety of his job and then inform them
that they have a better chance of getting shot walking
down the street than DH does at work. I had concidered
telling this to DS today but I don't think he would be
able to understand or relate to that. When he went to
bed tonight, I asked him if he felt better about daddy
to night and he said he did. I also reminded him that
sometimes bad things happen but that they aren't
always as bad as they could be. He recently was
hospitalised for a snake bite. At the time we let him
know that he could have lost his whole leg and that he
was lucky that it was a baby snake. I reminded him of
this and told him that Heavenly Father is watching out
for daddy and that He knows DS needs his daddy still
and that He is protecting him. DS said, "And Jesus
too?" I asured him that Jesus was protecting daddy as
well. I think he feels better about it. I expect that
it will take some time for him to get completely
comfortable (as completely as can be). But he's better
tonight and that is what counts.


> A few years ago there was an article in either our
> local paper or one of
> the Toronto papers about the dangers of different
> jobs.
>
> Police officers jobs were rated as one of the safer
> jobs.
>
> Maybe this would help comfort your son a little.
>
> Buzz
>
>
> --
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> The Klement Family "Education is what
> survives when
> Darryl, Debbie, what has been learned has
> been
> Kathleen, Nathan & forgotten"
> Samantha B.F. Skinner in "New
> Scientist".
> e-mail- klement@...
> Canadian homeschool page:
> http:\\www.flora.org/homeschool-ca/
> Ont. Federation of Teaching Parents:
> http:\\www.flora.org/oftp/
>
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