Barb Lundgren

In response to "Desparately Needs Help", it seems clear to me from your
email that the onus is not on your son to make dad and grandma happy with
his ability to socialize, but on you as the custodial parent and his father
as the supportive long distance parent, to have a straightforward, honest
discussion with the matriarch on who is raising this child. You are the
parent, you have all the legal and practical responsibilities and you will
make the decisions on what approach to education makes sense for your son.
Take the pressure off your son - and hurry! Let him be the kid he is and
reassure him that, no matter what grandma says about whether he should be in
school or not, she will not be making the decision. You, as his nurturing,
caring mother, will. You will help him to achieve whatever he wants,
period. That is what a mother does.

Barb Lundgren