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In a message dated 10/28/05 6:51:12 PM, oh.kneel@... writes:


> -=-Another episode, ds
> goes to store and gets overstimulated (my fault ad choice for him)-=-
>
I don't understand what you meant to write.

-=-and climbs up the metal staircase for employees and won't get down. -=-

If he's not old enough to stay near you, then you should hold his hand.
It wouldn't be okay for you or your husband to climb those stairs and it's
not okay for him.

-=-Then when he does runs all over the store as I try to chase him (and
catch him). -=-

Hold his hand until he's old enough to stay with you, or have him hold on to
your purse or backpack or something. Or keep him in a cart if there are
carts.

I've never had kids I had to chase, so I don't know what to say. Were you
very strict before?

All I can guess (and it could be a wholly wrong guess) is that somehow you
had an adversarial relationship and aren't quite at the partner stage yet. If
he sees getting away from you as a win, and coming back to you as a loss,
maybe see what you can do about the way you talk to him about going with you, and
how he needs to act in public.

-=-When I catch him his body almost seems to relax.  I
then carry him out of the store.  I feel frazzled but glad I can
talk with him calming not get angry.-=-

I wouldn't chase him. I wouldn't catch him. I would set the condition of
holding my hand or not gong to the store with me, until he's able to stay
near, and come when you ask him to.

Sandra







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