nrskay

I have grown up always overweight and continue to struggle with my
weight to this day. My mom & dad were normal weight. I'm adopted
and happen to know my birth mother. She was overweight all of her
life too, as are one of my sisters and 2 brothers.

When I was little my adopted mom would take me to the doctor and he
would put me on a diet.... I was just a kid and I learned at a very
young age the something was wrong with me. I ate too much
(according to the doctor). That was the beginning of my troubles.

Now at 51 yo I'm beginning to understand my issues with food and my
weight. Limiting food is not the answer, because it puts the
emphasis on the food and her weight.

With my 11 yo dtr, I'm very careful about not saying anything about
her weight or eating. She goes through growth spurts and eats like
a horse and then just eats a little until the next cycle of growth.

She is not over weight and does not seem to have any issues with her
weight like I did. But, I let her eat what she wants, when she
wants and however much she feels she needs.

I have friends who don't let their kids eat candy at home and I have
witnessed those same children consuming large amounts of candy and
junk when their parents aren't around.

I guess what I'm trying to say is take the issue off of her food,
her weight, help her to become a little more active and let her work
it our herself. I'm a testament to one who is screwed up because of
diets - they don't work.
Kay

Angela

<<I guess what I'm trying to say is take the issue off of her food,
her weight, help her to become a little more active and let her work
it our herself. I'm a testament to one who is screwed up because of
diets - they don't work.>>

I agree totally here. Take the focus off food and work to make changes in
your lives that include more physical exercise. Set a good example for the
kids and have your own exercise routine. There are so many fun things to
choose from that something should strike your fancy. (I love Leslie Sansone
low impact aerobic tapes. I can do them mindlessly 6 days a week and
although they aren't very strenuous, they make a huge impact in how I feel.)

I've been heavier and more inactive than was healthy at different times in
my life. I love to eat for the taste of food alone, not to mention the
comfort it gives me and the fact that I can't stand being hungry. I have
found that with even a moderate level of moving each day I can eat a quite a
lot of food and not gain weight. Aerobic exercise ups your metabolism. It
also took away the constant pain I had in my lower back. I am not rail
thin. I wear a size 12/14 but I feel healthy and strong.

Keep searching until you find something you like to do. (and your dd too,
but setting a good example is probably more important for a lifetime.) Maybe
get a gps and go on hikes to find geocaches if you need a reason to get
moving. If life is interesting enough, she probably won't eat to fill a
void, she'll eat when she needs it. Keep life interesting and keep moving.

Angela
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