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My son just turned 7 and we are having a family party for him on Sunday. A few weeks ago we mailed out invitations to family and a few of his kid friends.

SIL calls and leaves a message on the machine. It both saddened me and angered me at the same time. I've posted about this SIL in the past -- she was a die-hard school at homer (who claimed to be 'relaxed' but was anything but) who feels obedience is the word of the day -- parents dictate and kids obey.

Anyway, she has 2 kids, ages 14 & 15. My son wanted to invite their whole family, and the invitation was addressed as such. They recently moved here from out of state.

Her message stated: Sorry we won't be able to attend the party. H & C both have extracurricular activities on Sat. I know the party is Sunday, but I don't think they are really interested in attending a 7-yr-old's party and that they would be bored. I think maybe the younger cousins would have a better time there. Thanks for asking.

What the....??? Since when does AGE matter with family?? I was so stunned I didn't even reply.

That said, my son's best friend is 12, and he's 7. What does age have to do with anything??

Call me flabberghasted....

Janet

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In a message dated 9/16/05 5:46:54 PM, janethamlin@... writes:


> -=-she was a die-hard school at homer (who claimed to be 'relaxed' but was
> anything but....extracurricular activities...-=-
>
Are her kids in school now?

If so, or even if not, my guess is she has told her kids things to control
them and some of those things would be compromised by fraternizing with your
family.

Maybe she never let her kids invite big groups to their birthday parties.

Sandra





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-=-Are her kids in school now?

If so, or even if not, my guess is she has told her kids things to control
them and some of those things would be compromised by fraternizing with your
family.

Maybe she never let her kids invite big groups to their birthday parties.-=-

Yes, her kids are in a private high school now (Christian). Yes, she is very controlling. My guess is that she didn't even extend the invitation to them, just answered for them.

I just found it sad that some people are so entrenched in 'same age' stuff that they would discount family functions based on it.

My kids didn't understand her reasoning, either.

Janet

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