Theresa Bizzell

Hello! First let me introduce myself. I have been lurking for a
while and enjoy the discussions. I am a mom with 3 yo twins living
away from family with my partner. I am very interested in
unschooling and thought my kids were "too young" to start thinking
about "education". The more I read, the better I understand that the
learning is happening here and now. One of the ideas I am most
attracted to is allowing children to create their own path.

That brings me to my question. I never went for letting my kids cry-
it-out to get to sleep. Because of sleep deprivation and lack of
extra help, I am in the position where my kids won't sleep unless one
of us is in the room laying down with them. Some times this is fine
but more often it feels like a burden these days. I truly want my
kids to learn how to sleep on their own without trauma. Today after
reading a post I realized forcing them into my idea of their sleep
schedule was creating discomfort for all of us. I want to let them
develop their own routine around sleep and learn to ask to go to
sleep when they are ready.

It would be great if anyone who has been in this position could offer
some advice. My partner is not too keen on the idea. Feeling it
would be too loosy-goosey and permissive (we definitely fall on
different parts of the spectrum around their role in decision
making). We need to be on the same page about this as we both
participate in the night time routine. I would love to have some
anecdotal evidence to share to bring us closer together on this issue.

Thank you for all your support
Theresa






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