The Patersons

Thank you everyone for your very helpful replies. You helped me get
perspective on what I did and what my daughter needed. I apologised to her
today for not helping.

I've read so much good stuff and agreed with it all, but it becomes tricky
to remember it in the middle of whatever is going on, and my old tapes play
so often.

Cecily

Btw - overfunctioning is the word for basically being codependent - eg
someone who enables an alcoholic by making excuses for them, taking on their
responsibilities and basically living their lives for them. I have had a
problem with this in the past.



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