Adrean Clark

I need some ideas on one of my struggles:

Since I am the sole caretaker of my children, I have this policy of
"where I am, the kids go, where the kids go, I go." There are a few
exceptions when my parents are able to take them somewhere.

I'm getting very frustrated since there are some places that I want
very much to go to and the kids do not. So I feel resentful and angry
at the conflict over going. On the other hand, I am often sick and
struggling with depression, so it can be hard to get out and about.
Our schedule changes a lot and we are usually up late at night so the
kids do not have the wish to go out very often. I want them to ask to
go places but that'd mean consistent follow-ups on my part as well.

My kids are 8 and 4 (twins) - so I am not too confident on their
ability to opt out on something and stay home by themselves. I could
try with the oldest but not with the youngsters, I think they are too
young yet.

What are some ways we could work together better on this? What do you
all do for your kids, especially single moms?

Adrean