Meredith

--- In [email protected], Kendrah Nilsestuen
<carebear-79@...> wrote:
>I can listen to them
> and show validation and understanding for their feelings.
Something I
> try to do anyway, but from now on will do it without so much focus
on
> the end result like you said. Taking away the pressure of trying
to
> fix everything, I'll probably find myself with more win/ win

Yes, this is why its important to me, personally, to focus on needs
being important - I tend to be a "fixer". So thinking about finding
win/win solutions takes me right back to more goal-oriented problem
solving - if I'm thinking "must find win/win solution" I'm more
likely to skip the process and go right to "okay, you guys, this is
what I've decided will work for everyone". Oops. If I can step away
from my own desire to find a solution, I'm a lot more open to
possibilities.

---Meredith (Mo 5.5, Ray 13)