transitioning to no bedtime
Geneva
Just wanted to add to the discussion that im not sure when ours happened
exactly.we have leaned towards the radical since we learned about
unschooling over 3 yrs ago. We have never really had a set bed time but
with younger kids it is a process because they do need their rest and often
cant express that.
My kids are free to go to bed whenever but at 4 and 6.they are very much
into routines. We may have dinner at 6 and we may have dinner at 10,
depending on when dh arrives home but after dinner we naturally and
gradually end up getting ready for bed. Theres not really a rush unless we
have an early engagement for the next day.
Last night dh was working until past 11 pm, my son was away at gmas and I
was planning to keep 4 yo up late to watch movies and relax for a girls
night. That little booger told me at 9 pm that she was ready for bed!!
Rob, your girls are busy and active - I say let bed time go and I bet you
will see that they are tired about 12-14 hrs after the time that they wake
up. I am sure you have your night time routine which you would probably
want to keep but if I were a betting woman, I would bet that they are still
in bed close to the same time they go to bed now when given the freedom.
geneva
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exactly.we have leaned towards the radical since we learned about
unschooling over 3 yrs ago. We have never really had a set bed time but
with younger kids it is a process because they do need their rest and often
cant express that.
My kids are free to go to bed whenever but at 4 and 6.they are very much
into routines. We may have dinner at 6 and we may have dinner at 10,
depending on when dh arrives home but after dinner we naturally and
gradually end up getting ready for bed. Theres not really a rush unless we
have an early engagement for the next day.
Last night dh was working until past 11 pm, my son was away at gmas and I
was planning to keep 4 yo up late to watch movies and relax for a girls
night. That little booger told me at 9 pm that she was ready for bed!!
Rob, your girls are busy and active - I say let bed time go and I bet you
will see that they are tired about 12-14 hrs after the time that they wake
up. I am sure you have your night time routine which you would probably
want to keep but if I were a betting woman, I would bet that they are still
in bed close to the same time they go to bed now when given the freedom.
geneva
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Robert Saxon
DW and I discussed what would it take for us to be OK letting the girls stay
up, even though we went to sleep, and actually came up with something that
appears workable. We'd still have to do a few things, but it's actually
DO-able.
she's tired, or hungry, and especially when both. If DW and I stay up to get
things done, and dd2 is still up, we won't get anything done. We'd best
just head off to bed. But I don't know what would happen if we had the
space to let her be up, and we just went to bed. Hmmm...
I can tell you right now that if DW and I were still up, then having a
"quiet time" will not work for dd2. Even having a designated space would
mean zilch if DW and I were still up but in a different part of the house.
They love being with us, and would not stay there (not sure I would want to
try to keep them there, more police action). What's more, in many other
situations, dd2 has difficulty modulating her volume. When she's loud, we
try to give her ways to be loud while maintaining our own eardrums. At
night, she will not be quiet.
We'll see. We're doing a lot of re-arranging right now, we may be able to
set up a quiet area for when they want to stay up later than we do, and a
place that's still safe with access to us if they want it.
--Rob
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up, even though we went to sleep, and actually came up with something that
appears workable. We'd still have to do a few things, but it's actually
DO-able.
> if I were a betting woman, I would bet that they are stillI'm not so worried about dd1 as dd2. dd2 really does get obnoxious when
> in bed close to the same time they go to bed now when given the freedom.
she's tired, or hungry, and especially when both. If DW and I stay up to get
things done, and dd2 is still up, we won't get anything done. We'd best
just head off to bed. But I don't know what would happen if we had the
space to let her be up, and we just went to bed. Hmmm...
I can tell you right now that if DW and I were still up, then having a
"quiet time" will not work for dd2. Even having a designated space would
mean zilch if DW and I were still up but in a different part of the house.
They love being with us, and would not stay there (not sure I would want to
try to keep them there, more police action). What's more, in many other
situations, dd2 has difficulty modulating her volume. When she's loud, we
try to give her ways to be loud while maintaining our own eardrums. At
night, she will not be quiet.
We'll see. We're doing a lot of re-arranging right now, we may be able to
set up a quiet area for when they want to stay up later than we do, and a
place that's still safe with access to us if they want it.
--Rob
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