Vickisue Gray

Ren,
You said, "I've definitely worked to let go of how others view my parenting.
It's especially hard with Jalen who ...."

I find this conversation interesting as my neon-pink haired teenage daughter,
chastises me, when I feel compelled to explain to total strangers why I'm okay
with it. As if I must 'explain' the 'whys' of my parenting.

Example: Today at Sea World, as we were standing in line for a dinner show, a couple of elderly couples were out together and standing in line behind my son and I. They commented on his tiger face make-up which lead to his growling at them. The comment was nice, but obviously, he had become the tiger.

At this point my girls joined us. One normal haired, also sporting a tiger face, and the other normal faced, sporting her usual self in neon pink. Needless to say, she (the pink haired one) raised eyebrows as I claimed them.

I call it my mother's syndrome as I feet compelled to defend my daughter's choices. IE: She's intelligent, speaks four languages, .....you get the point. My mother always needed to tell EVERYONE all the personal details of my life when I was a teen. I hated it. Now I live with my MIL who tells the same ten stories over and over again, as if everyone shall gleen knowledge from her exploits. (She doesn't waste time talking of her child.)

Anyhow, why should I care what these elders of society think of me as a mother of a bright young lady? I don't need to justify my choices with anyone but myself and my maker. I don't need to justify my daughter's choices, either. Today, I successfully kept my mouth shut and let them think what they will.

I still need to work on not trying to grade my parenting.
Vicki




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--- In [email protected], Vickisue Gray
<vickisue_gray@...> wrote:

Needless to say, she (the pink haired one) raised eyebrows as I
claimed them.


I LOVE LOVE LOVE pink hair. I really think it's one of the best-
looking colors for hair.
Besides, don't a lot of old ladies dye their hair? Where's the
difference? I'm sure back in *the day* they raised eyebrows...with
painted faces, short hair, showing off their knees. ; ) lol
My hair would be pink, if I wasn't afraid of damaging it by bleaching
it out so I could dye it. I'm trying to get it to my ankles (don't
ask why, I don't know) then I'm going to shave it all off and start
over. That's what my plan is, anyway. I'm thinking of dreadlocks,
too..... Isn't hair just the *funnest*? lol

Ria
--with wavy, dark brown hair that has at least 6 inches to go before
it reaches my ankles...