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In a message dated 12/18/2006 5:25:35 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

So how did you guys who have chosen a guardian decide on them?
And how did you go about putting your wishes in writing? <<<<<<<

It was very difficult for us. Both dh and I have siblings, and we would
want NONE of them to be guardians for our children. So I started making
friends. We were new to NC and I knew of no unschooling families. I put myself out
there and they appeared. I have a large circle of unschooling friends now.
But in getting to know them over the years it made the decision about
guardianship easy. We have chosen friends as guardians. They know my children
more than any family member, they live consensually so I know my boys thoughts,
feelings ideas etc would be taken seriously. They unschool. And I can see
how they live with their own children, how they problem solve, how they parent
etc. That is the most comforting thing.

I see family, either side, maybe once every couple of years.

We did put it in writing, in our wills. With a brief couple of sentences
just saying that we trust this couple and have seen them parent their own
children, and we feel this couple would make the best fit for our children
(something like that). I know feelings would be hurt if the will were ever read,
but my children are my priority, not hurt feelings.

Anyway, just a couple of thoughts,
Pam G




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