alisonslp

I'm wondering what the best way to get rid of the household limits.
The past few days, I have been saying "yes" a lot more when they ask
for something. Or I will say "you don't have to ask. If you want to
...." you can have it. I also have relaxed the bedtimes, letting them
ease upstairs as they feel tired, though I have been suggesting, when
I see they are really tired. I must say, it feels right to be doing
this. Life has been alot smoother the past few days. I'm still having
twinges of "well of course, they're smoother - you're letting them do
everything they want (read "spoiling" them)". That's my long time
thinking and it will take a while to have it fade away. But for the
most part, the new relaxed life just feels better.

Anyway, am I doing it right? Or should I just sit them down and tell
them the new "unrules" {grin}.

alison

Ren Allen

~~I'm wondering what the best way to get rid of the household limits.~~

Unschooling isn't about getting rid of limits, it's about examining
limits and not placing arbitrary limits on other people. There are
still limits in my household, ideally about reality not control.

Right now my limit is sheerly physical...I'm tired so I'm going to bed.:)

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

Joanne

Hi Alison,

I just wrote a blog post on arbitrary limits. It was actually a
collection of posts I had saved on my computer a while ago and found
while I was cleaning out some files. Here's the link:

http://tinyurl.com/yytyvp

I think loosening control a little at a time is best (at least it
was for us) when it's a new concept, rather than just all at once.

~ Joanne ~
Mom to Jacqueline (8), Shawna (11) & Cimion (14)
Adopted into our hearts October 2003
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--- In [email protected], "alisonslp"
<alisonslp@...> wrote:
>
> I'm wondering what the best way to get rid of the household limits.
> The past few days, I have been saying "yes" a lot more when they
ask
> for something. Or I will say "you don't have to ask. If you want to
> ...." you can have it. I also have relaxed the bedtimes, letting
them
> ease upstairs as they feel tired, though I have been suggesting,
when
> I see they are really tired. I must say, it feels right to be
doing
> this. Life has been alot smoother the past few days. I'm still
having
> twinges of "well of course, they're smoother - you're letting them
do
> everything they want (read "spoiling" them)". That's my long time
> thinking and it will take a while to have it fade away. But for the
> most part, the new relaxed life just feels better.
>
> Anyway, am I doing it right? Or should I just sit them down and
tell
> them the new "unrules" {grin}.
>
> alison
>

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-----Original Message-----
From: alisonslp@...

I'm wondering what the best way to get rid of the household limits.
The past few days, I have been saying "yes" a lot more when they ask
for something. Or I will say "you don't have to ask. If you want to
...." you can have it. I also have relaxed the bedtimes, letting them
ease upstairs as they feel tired, though I have been suggesting, when
I see they are really tired. I must say, it feels right to be doing
this. Life has been alot smoother the past few days. I'm still having
twinges of "well of course, they're smoother - you're letting them do
everything they want (read "spoiling" them)". That's my long time
thinking and it will take a while to have it fade away. But for the
most part, the new relaxed life just feels better.

Anyway, am I doing it right? Or should I just sit them down and tell
them the new "unrules" {grin}.

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What you're doing sounds great---and children aren't spoiled---that's
for meat and fruits! <g>

How old are they? Younger children---just say yes more.

Older children may want to know why mom's flipped out! They also may
not trust you to be thinking of this long-term!

~Kelly
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alisonslp

Thanks Ladies...

I will check out the blog.

alison