Lisa H

<<Watch out for your expectations of what you think he should be doing or not doing. He will surprise you. >>

**** I think this is what I am trying to learn. It has recently struck me that I have a lot of expectations.

BTW, he made a great train track by himself today, for the first time. I am trusting the process. I am trusting the process. I am trusting the process... it is my new mantra.
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One of the things that really needed to shift in my perception of trust is that even when i thought i was letting go of expectations there was more to be done in the area of true acceptance. I used to say i trust my dd will eventual learn to read. I *knew* it would happen, i *trusted* it would happen - had no expectation as to when. And then a dear unschooling friend said to me, and what if she never does, what if she always finds reading difficult and independent reading never becomes a reality. It was then that i understood real acceptance.

Lisa Heyman

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