Ren Allen

"How do you seasoned radicals think fast enough to avoid the raised
voices/threats/punishments? and what will our kids think of us if we
constantly reconfigure how we handled a certain situation in the past?"

I don't always!!!:) But I do hear it as a very dissonant chord when it
comes out of my mouth, and I rephrase or try to start over.

As far as what our children think, if we reconfigure? Hopefully, that
we're learning and growing right along with them!! Sierra said "You're
the best mom EVER" today. Sweet, but I said "I don't know about that,
but I'm learning how to be a better Mom every day"

Which is true. Every interaction, every day gives us moments to make
new and better choices. That's how growth works.:)

Welcome to the list!

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

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From: starsuncloud@...

Sierra said "You're
the best mom EVER" today. Sweet, but I said "I don't know about that,
but I'm learning how to be a better Mom every day"

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Ren! You take compliments graciously in the spirit they are given!

Say simply, "Thank you!"

Don't negate *her* feelings!


~Kelly
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Sorry! I meant to reprimand/slam Ren OFFlist! <g>

But since it's here. I DO think we need to accept our children's
compliments graciously. "Thank you" and "I'm glad you think so" are
fine responses. Saying that maybe you're not negates the child's
feelings. She really thinks so. That's wonderful! Enjoy it!

~Kelly




-----Original Message-----
From: kbcdlovejo@...
-----Original Message-----
From: starsuncloud@...

Sierra said "You're
the best mom EVER" today. Sweet, but I said "I don't know about that,
but I'm learning how to be a better Mom every day"

-=-=-=-

Ren! You take compliments graciously in the spirit they are given!

Say simply, "Thank you!"

Don't negate *her* feelings!

________________________________________________________________________
Check out AOL.com today. Breaking news, video search, pictures, email
and IM. All on demand. Always Free.

Michelle/Melbrigða

On 8/1/06, kbcdlovejo@... <kbcdlovejo@...> wrote:
>
> Sorry! I meant to reprimand/slam Ren OFFlist! <g>
>
> But since it's here. I DO think we need to accept our children's
> compliments graciously. "Thank you" and "I'm glad you think so" are
> fine responses. Saying that maybe you're not negates the child's
> feelings. She really thinks so. That's wonderful! Enjoy it!
>
> Oh I am SO glad that you said that here, Kelly. I think people need to
hear that and learn it. My best friend taught me years ago that the only
acceptable response to a compliment was "thank you." I had a very bad habit
of accepting a compliment and either negating it or lessening it. For
instance someone would say, "You look very nice today. Your hair is
different or something." I would respond, "MY hair? Oh I can never do
anything with it." Whenever I would do this with Melissa she would say, "No
no no. the only acceptable response to a compliment is thank you. Now
start over."




--
Michelle
aka Melbrigða
http://eventualknitting.blogspot.com
[email protected] - Homeschooling for the Medieval Recreationist


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Joyce Fetteroll

On Aug 2, 2006, at 8:30 AM, Michelle/Melbrigða wrote:

> My best friend taught me years ago that the only
> acceptable response to a compliment was "thank you." I had a very
> bad habit
> of accepting a compliment and either negating it or lessening it.

I had problems until I realized that by negating someone's compliment
it's really insulting them. If they say "I like that dress," and I
say, "Oh, this old thing?" or something I'm basically saying "Boy, do
you have bad taste!" I try to keep that in mind when I feel the urge
to downplay a compliment.

Joyce

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