Under Deadman's Skin
sandshuse
Under Deadman's Skin by Jane Katch, was a very interesting read. She
examins the First graders in her class. But she does it while trying
hard to control her judgement and see where it leads her. I'm not
clear why this book called to me, but it was one of those books. I
figured this might help some people who are still on the fence about
certain controls, mainly tv and video games.
"Parents who wish to deny that their child has murderous wishes and
wants to tear things and even people into pieces believe that their
child must be prevented from engaging in such thoughts (as if this
were possible). By denying access to stories which implicitly tell the
child that others have the same fantasies, he is left to feel that he
is the only one who imageines such things. This makes his fantasies
really scary. On the other hand, learning that others have the same or
similar fantasies makes us feel that we are a part of humanity, and
allays our fears that haaving such destructive ideas has put us beyond
the common pale."
This really spoke to me. I get a lot of crap because my four year
watches South Park, The Simpsons, and all kinds of other things many
main stream people think are wrong. I feel for them, I see their
points. Although they don't even listen to mine. Parker has learned so
much in watching those shows. And he understands that it's tv, and not
real life.
I think what she was saying, is that see any fantasies played out,
makes us all realize that we are normal or the same as everyone else.
(okay maybe everyone else, because I have five heads. lmao)
Thanks for bearing with me.
Danie
examins the First graders in her class. But she does it while trying
hard to control her judgement and see where it leads her. I'm not
clear why this book called to me, but it was one of those books. I
figured this might help some people who are still on the fence about
certain controls, mainly tv and video games.
"Parents who wish to deny that their child has murderous wishes and
wants to tear things and even people into pieces believe that their
child must be prevented from engaging in such thoughts (as if this
were possible). By denying access to stories which implicitly tell the
child that others have the same fantasies, he is left to feel that he
is the only one who imageines such things. This makes his fantasies
really scary. On the other hand, learning that others have the same or
similar fantasies makes us feel that we are a part of humanity, and
allays our fears that haaving such destructive ideas has put us beyond
the common pale."
This really spoke to me. I get a lot of crap because my four year
watches South Park, The Simpsons, and all kinds of other things many
main stream people think are wrong. I feel for them, I see their
points. Although they don't even listen to mine. Parker has learned so
much in watching those shows. And he understands that it's tv, and not
real life.
I think what she was saying, is that see any fantasies played out,
makes us all realize that we are normal or the same as everyone else.
(okay maybe everyone else, because I have five heads. lmao)
Thanks for bearing with me.
Danie
jlh44music
"sandshuse" <sandshuse@...> wrote:
trying hard to control her judgement and see where it leads her.>>
I read this book too, interesting. One thing she wrote that stood
out for me was (talking about an older child who will be going into
middle school the next year, and who she had been talking with to
get a "more experienced" opinion) "For a kid who often feels
powerless in relation to adults and to other kids, the video games
are a safe way he can feel stroing and in control. After a bad day
at school, he can go to this room and peacefully kill off the
enemies, making stady progress toward an attainable goal. With a
video game, anyone can be a dominant puppy. It's a satisfaction in
his life that he can count on. Why should he give it up? Yet he is
afraid of his own anger and depression, and he knows that in another
year he will face big changes, he'll have to leave the protection of
his small school where he feels relatively safe and go to a middle
school that is an unknown, if things got really bad, he wonders,
could he lose control?" and "If his parents forbade his games, would
he become more obsessed with his obsession?" then "I am impressed
with how frequently Jason tells me his father's opinion. These
conversations and the relationship that surrounds them are deeply
meaningful to him. Could it be true that limiting the excessive
violence and continuing this dialogue is a better middle ground than
trying to eliminate the games altogether? (helping the children to
make their own rules and to see the effects)"
How fortunate we are to have our kids home, in an environment where
anything is open to discussion and exploration, and where they don't
feel powerless in relation to adults and other kids.
Jann
>She examins the First graders in her class. But she does it while
> Under Deadman's Skin by Jane Katch, was a very interesting read.
trying hard to control her judgement and see where it leads her.>>
I read this book too, interesting. One thing she wrote that stood
out for me was (talking about an older child who will be going into
middle school the next year, and who she had been talking with to
get a "more experienced" opinion) "For a kid who often feels
powerless in relation to adults and to other kids, the video games
are a safe way he can feel stroing and in control. After a bad day
at school, he can go to this room and peacefully kill off the
enemies, making stady progress toward an attainable goal. With a
video game, anyone can be a dominant puppy. It's a satisfaction in
his life that he can count on. Why should he give it up? Yet he is
afraid of his own anger and depression, and he knows that in another
year he will face big changes, he'll have to leave the protection of
his small school where he feels relatively safe and go to a middle
school that is an unknown, if things got really bad, he wonders,
could he lose control?" and "If his parents forbade his games, would
he become more obsessed with his obsession?" then "I am impressed
with how frequently Jason tells me his father's opinion. These
conversations and the relationship that surrounds them are deeply
meaningful to him. Could it be true that limiting the excessive
violence and continuing this dialogue is a better middle ground than
trying to eliminate the games altogether? (helping the children to
make their own rules and to see the effects)"
How fortunate we are to have our kids home, in an environment where
anything is open to discussion and exploration, and where they don't
feel powerless in relation to adults and other kids.
Jann