Hard Times
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The last week has been hard in a lot of ways. It started quite nicely, though
frantically, as my son turned 13, we had his birthday party, and church
started up for the year (I am Director of Religious Education at a Unitarian
Universalist church), all in the same weekend. (This is not remarkable...it
happens every year.)
We have had an ongoing problem with a sick cat, and now it looks like the
other cat has the same thing. They're both elderly, and have thyroid
problems. One of them keeps missing the litter box when she pees, so much of
the time when you go into the bathroom there is cat pee on the floor.
Then a couple days ago my mom, who has been fighting cancer for almost five
years, went into the hospital, as the cancer has spread to her brain. It
looks like it's very treatable, and that she'll be okay for now. But she had
a seizure and the law in FL, where she lives, says she can't drive until
she's been seizure-free for six months. She's also worried she'll lose her
job.
Meanwhile, my father, who left my mom when she got sick, is being totally
bizarre and my sister is taking it very personally and is hurting very badly
from it. (My family was really quite sane and normal up until a few years
ago.)
I am just overwhelmed. My family (partner and son) are being so wonderful and
supportive, but it's hard. Last night I screamed at Julian. He was just being
sweet-obnoxious-noodgey to Beth, and she asked him to stop several times, but
he didn't...and I just screamed. He was so startled and his eyes filled with
tears. I apologized and he said he knew I was upset. But...argh!
Anyway, I have another Good Week post, that I will put in another post. Don't
want to water it down with this stuff. Thanks for listening,
Kathryn
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frantically, as my son turned 13, we had his birthday party, and church
started up for the year (I am Director of Religious Education at a Unitarian
Universalist church), all in the same weekend. (This is not remarkable...it
happens every year.)
We have had an ongoing problem with a sick cat, and now it looks like the
other cat has the same thing. They're both elderly, and have thyroid
problems. One of them keeps missing the litter box when she pees, so much of
the time when you go into the bathroom there is cat pee on the floor.
Then a couple days ago my mom, who has been fighting cancer for almost five
years, went into the hospital, as the cancer has spread to her brain. It
looks like it's very treatable, and that she'll be okay for now. But she had
a seizure and the law in FL, where she lives, says she can't drive until
she's been seizure-free for six months. She's also worried she'll lose her
job.
Meanwhile, my father, who left my mom when she got sick, is being totally
bizarre and my sister is taking it very personally and is hurting very badly
from it. (My family was really quite sane and normal up until a few years
ago.)
I am just overwhelmed. My family (partner and son) are being so wonderful and
supportive, but it's hard. Last night I screamed at Julian. He was just being
sweet-obnoxious-noodgey to Beth, and she asked him to stop several times, but
he didn't...and I just screamed. He was so startled and his eyes filled with
tears. I apologized and he said he knew I was upset. But...argh!
Anyway, I have another Good Week post, that I will put in another post. Don't
want to water it down with this stuff. Thanks for listening,
Kathryn
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marji
Just sending you and your family some hugs and good thoughts, Kathryn.
All the best,
Marji
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All the best,
Marji
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Kathryn, I'm so sorry.
We had a long spell of this when my dad was sick, and then right after,
my husband's dad. You end up feeling like you have to be strong for
everyone, especially your child. I wish I'd given in to the little
crumples along the way, it might have saved me from the falling down hard
when it was all over.
I have an old sick cat, he has kidney failure, and so I know what you
mean about missing the box more often than not.
It doesn't really help to know other people understand because you still
have to live it every day. But things are always changing and this will
change too.
Hold on Kathryn and let the people who love you help, that's what they
really want to do.
Deb L
We had a long spell of this when my dad was sick, and then right after,
my husband's dad. You end up feeling like you have to be strong for
everyone, especially your child. I wish I'd given in to the little
crumples along the way, it might have saved me from the falling down hard
when it was all over.
I have an old sick cat, he has kidney failure, and so I know what you
mean about missing the box more often than not.
It doesn't really help to know other people understand because you still
have to live it every day. But things are always changing and this will
change too.
Hold on Kathryn and let the people who love you help, that's what they
really want to do.
Deb L