[AlwaysLearning] The Path to Truth'n'Light
Nanci Kuykendall
>So I suppose it was good, even though embarrassing,That's an interesting parallel Sandra. My path
>for me to see where I COULD have ended up if I hadn't
>pursued truth'n'light (lite) which, for me, took the
>form of Adult Children of Alcoholics and La Leche
>League all in the space of a year and a half.
>Lights were flooding on all over.
>Sandra
intersected with Alanon also, as an 'adult child.' Do
you suppose that the extremity of our families'
unhealthiness (yours and mine) shoved us enough to
wake us up, whereas people with families whose
dysfunction is more mild, more 'normal', often don't
get a wake up call, but continue to function as what
my husband and I call sleepwalkers? That is: those
who are not truly aware of themselves, their lives,
their emotions and surroundings; someone going through
the motions; repeating the status quo; with no deep
spiritual/emotional connection to the universe or
their loved ones; etc.
I don't feel I was really sleepwalking before Alanon,
but I was a very angry and discontent person,
disconnected emotionally from myself and others, and
from my past. Alanon made a big difference in that
department however.
Nanci K.
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In a message dated 6/26/02 10:27:26 AM, aisliin@... writes:
<< I don't feel I was really sleepwalking before Alanon,
but I was a very angry and discontent person,
disconnected emotionally from myself and others, and
from my past. >>
Same for me, but I was OVERemotioanlly connected to myself an others.
ACA helped me relax, emotionally speaking, and to wait. I learned patience
and perspective.
<< Do
you suppose that the extremity of our families'
unhealthiness (yours and mine) shoved us enough to
wake us up, whereas people with families whose
dysfunction is more mild, more 'normal', often don't
get a wake up call, but continue to function as what
my husband and I call sleepwalkers? >>
Partly the sock of any trauma triggers thinking (or triggers SHUT DOWN and
avoidance of thinking, sometimes). People's lives change from
life-threatening diseases and car accidents and such too.
But I think it's a combination of interpersonal/intrapersonal skills, sad
memories of childhood, and being parents that causes some people's awareness
and empathy for their children to be extra sharp.
People whose childhoods were tolerably fine and who aren't much into
self-reflection and who don't read other people's subtleties very well will
have no reason to make any life-transformations like unschooling, I figure.
Sandra
<< I don't feel I was really sleepwalking before Alanon,
but I was a very angry and discontent person,
disconnected emotionally from myself and others, and
from my past. >>
Same for me, but I was OVERemotioanlly connected to myself an others.
ACA helped me relax, emotionally speaking, and to wait. I learned patience
and perspective.
<< Do
you suppose that the extremity of our families'
unhealthiness (yours and mine) shoved us enough to
wake us up, whereas people with families whose
dysfunction is more mild, more 'normal', often don't
get a wake up call, but continue to function as what
my husband and I call sleepwalkers? >>
Partly the sock of any trauma triggers thinking (or triggers SHUT DOWN and
avoidance of thinking, sometimes). People's lives change from
life-threatening diseases and car accidents and such too.
But I think it's a combination of interpersonal/intrapersonal skills, sad
memories of childhood, and being parents that causes some people's awareness
and empathy for their children to be extra sharp.
People whose childhoods were tolerably fine and who aren't much into
self-reflection and who don't read other people's subtleties very well will
have no reason to make any life-transformations like unschooling, I figure.
Sandra