Sandra Dodd

Lately I connected again with a homeschooler I corresponded with many years ago. Facebook friends now. So I saw something on her page and responded with a couple of links to something that honestly might help her or someone else.

She had written:

A little horse care this morning restabilized my mental and emotional states. And if shoveling manure makes me happy and content, I can imagine what happens for all of you singers and runners and swimmers and skaters and..... (If only I could cultivate this frame of mind for housework.)

_________
I made two posts, each with a link many of you will recognize:
_______________

This might help a little bit, possibly.
http://sandradodd.com/dishes (and then facebook inserted an image, which was nice...)

and

And maybe... http://sandradodd.com/chores/gift

__________

One of her friends (male) wrote
"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! (Ok, for those of us who can listen to musice while cleaning, it's also the ear-piercing ABBA)."

Another (female):
"I listen to ABBA and let the maids do it "

And my correspondent from years back (who was a homeschooler and not an unschooler) wrote:

"Ah Sandra Dodd, somehow it works so much better at the stable than in the house. Aging hands do appreciate the warm water when washing dishes though.
"
______________________
So back to here, now.

If you have, from thoughts and deeds relating to unschooling, come to accept and find peace in process, and you can find happiness and contentment in ways you couldn't before, be grateful and happy.

It's good to look back down the hill and remember that some people can't or don't want to find ways to be happier in the moment.

A friend of someone who's not an unschooler thinks he should tell me I'm wrong? Then he can have that, and I won't argue.
-=-"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! -=- People with young children, or children at home who don't go to school, are unlikely to get much "product" with house cleaning, so they're ahead if they can learn to be content (or better) with the process.

For anyone new to this group who didn't recognize those links, this one might be even better:
http://sandradodd.com/joy

Sandra

BRIAN POLIKOWSKY

I posted a video on Facebook of a little toddler "helping" mom.It is pretty adorable and quite accurate in my home.
I hope people see it and see the wonder of that little child and it does not squish her curiosity and spirit.

Annelerin işi neden HİÇ BİTMEZ? - Engelsiz Zihinler | Facebook

I hope parents that want to unschool well prioritize the child and not a perfect house  and that they enjoy  those years and clean and do things with joy as a gift to their family'.
 
 
Alex Polikowsky
 
 
 


On Sunday, February 22, 2015 5:04 PM, "Sandra Dodd Sandra@... [AlwaysLearning]" <[email protected]> wrote:


 
Lately I connected again with a homeschooler I corresponded with many years ago. Facebook friends now. So I saw something on her page and responded with a couple of links to something that honestly might help her or someone else.

She had written:

A little horse care this morning restabilized my mental and emotional states. And if shoveling manure makes me happy and content, I can imagine what happens for all of you singers and runners and swimmers and skaters and..... (If only I could cultivate this frame of mind for housework.)

_________
I made two posts, each with a link many of you will recognize:
_______________

This might help a little bit, possibly.
http://sandradodd.com/dishes (and then facebook inserted an image, which was nice...)

and

And maybe... http://sandradodd.com/chores/gift

__________

One of her friends (male) wrote
"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! (Ok, for those of us who can listen to musice while cleaning, it's also the ear-piercing ABBA)."

Another (female):
"I listen to ABBA and let the maids do it "

And my correspondent from years back (who was a homeschooler and not an unschooler) wrote:

"Ah Sandra Dodd, somehow it works so much better at the stable than in the house. Aging hands do appreciate the warm water when washing dishes though.
"
______________________
So back to here, now.

If you have, from thoughts and deeds relating to unschooling, come to accept and find peace in process, and you can find happiness and contentment in ways you couldn't before, be grateful and happy.

It's good to look back down the hill and remember that some people can't or don't want to find ways to be happier in the moment.

A friend of someone who's not an unschooler thinks he should tell me I'm wrong? Then he can have that, and I won't argue.
-=-"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! -=- People with young children, or children at home who don't go to school, are unlikely to get much "product" with house cleaning, so they're ahead if they can learn to be content (or better) with the process.

For anyone new to this group who didn't recognize those links, this one might be even better:
http://sandradodd.com/joy

Sandra


chris ester

When we (my husband and I) committed to unschooling, the hardest part of deschooling for me was letting go of "product".  To realize that "process" or the doing of whatever we were doing was/is the important part of our daily not so much of a routine to pay attention to.  Then I had to stop thinking in terms of before now and in the future so that I could live and love in the moment.  I am much better, but am still working on it.  

When I stopped planning and plotting my children's "progress" I was afraid that progress would not happen.  When I let go of plans and just looked for moments I realized that we were all happier and that progress (as in growth and learning) took care of itself.  Learning happens, if you get out of the way and partner with your children in living a happy life that centers on them and their interests.  

Now that my kids are 16 and 18, I see the "products" of unschooling in their choices and the wonderful people that they have become.  
chris

On Sun, Feb 22, 2015 at 6:04 PM, Sandra Dodd Sandra@... [AlwaysLearning] <[email protected]> wrote:
 

Lately I connected again with a homeschooler I corresponded with many years ago. Facebook friends now. So I saw something on her page and responded with a couple of links to something that honestly might help her or someone else.

She had written:

A little horse care this morning restabilized my mental and emotional states. And if shoveling manure makes me happy and content, I can imagine what happens for all of you singers and runners and swimmers and skaters and..... (If only I could cultivate this frame of mind for housework.)

_________
I made two posts, each with a link many of you will recognize:
_______________

This might help a little bit, possibly.
http://sandradodd.com/dishes (and then facebook inserted an image, which was nice...)

and

And maybe... http://sandradodd.com/chores/gift

__________

One of her friends (male) wrote
"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! (Ok, for those of us who can listen to musice while cleaning, it's also the ear-piercing ABBA)."

Another (female):
"I listen to ABBA and let the maids do it "

And my correspondent from years back (who was a homeschooler and not an unschooler) wrote:

"Ah Sandra Dodd, somehow it works so much better at the stable than in the house. Aging hands do appreciate the warm water when washing dishes though.
"
______________________
So back to here, now.

If you have, from thoughts and deeds relating to unschooling, come to accept and find peace in process, and you can find happiness and contentment in ways you couldn't before, be grateful and happy.

It's good to look back down the hill and remember that some people can't or don't want to find ways to be happier in the moment.

A friend of someone who's not an unschooler thinks he should tell me I'm wrong? Then he can have that, and I won't argue.
-=-"It's not the process of house cleaning, it's the product that offers rewards! -=- People with young children, or children at home who don't go to school, are unlikely to get much "product" with house cleaning, so they're ahead if they can learn to be content (or better) with the process.

For anyone new to this group who didn't recognize those links, this one might be even better:
http://sandradodd.com/joy

Sandra