Supporting my 3 year old with patience
Sarah Stone-Francisco
Sparrow is really enjoying watching all sorts of things on YouTube right now, but unfortunately gets so upset when it pauses.
I do what I can to help speed up the internet connection, but when there's no solution but to wait for something to load she gets very upset.
I often
- talk to her about how the internet isn't something we can control right now (if I've done all I can think of to fix it)
- take deep breaths with her and make a fun game out of it
- count to 10 with her
- suggest other things she can do (choose another video or game or activity all together)
It happens a lot, and even more when she is tired. And, she plays on the iPad a fair amount when tired -- it seems to feel like a mellow activity she can wind down to.
She just turned three, so I'm not expecting her to be patient. I feel bad for her when she gets so upset and I can't fix it or help her fix it. I'm wondering if there are any suggestions for making it easier for her to deal with?
Thank you so much in advance!
love, sarah
I do what I can to help speed up the internet connection, but when there's no solution but to wait for something to load she gets very upset.
I often
- talk to her about how the internet isn't something we can control right now (if I've done all I can think of to fix it)
- take deep breaths with her and make a fun game out of it
- count to 10 with her
- suggest other things she can do (choose another video or game or activity all together)
It happens a lot, and even more when she is tired. And, she plays on the iPad a fair amount when tired -- it seems to feel like a mellow activity she can wind down to.
She just turned three, so I'm not expecting her to be patient. I feel bad for her when she gets so upset and I can't fix it or help her fix it. I'm wondering if there are any suggestions for making it easier for her to deal with?
Thank you so much in advance!
love, sarah
<lynnmack1978@...>
Does she have some certain favorites that you could download to the iPad itself? I think you can get individual shows from iTunes for a few bucks each. Even if she doesn't always want to watch those particular ones perhaps she could learn that when she can't handle the wait there is an option - a compromise available to her?
Joyce Fetteroll
On Apr 25, 2014, at 3:29 AM, Sarah Stone-Francisco <sarah.stonefrancisco@...> wrote:
Sometimes it might be appropriate to say once or twice "That's frustrating when that happens," so she has a word to go with what she's feeling.
If it's raining, don't get hyper focused on helping her accept the rain. If it's raining and there were big plans, give her space to grieve for the loss of the expected fun, then move onto something that doesn't need the sun.
*You* doing what will help her move past disappointment will work better than getting her to understand and do it herself.
Joyce
> I oftenWell, it sounds like you're trying to fix her rather than 1) creating a comfortable nest to be disappointed in and 2) doing something distracting -- and helpfully fun or funny -- *yourself* rather than trying to get her to change.
> - talk to her about how the internet isn't something we can control right now
Sometimes it might be appropriate to say once or twice "That's frustrating when that happens," so she has a word to go with what she's feeling.
If it's raining, don't get hyper focused on helping her accept the rain. If it's raining and there were big plans, give her space to grieve for the loss of the expected fun, then move onto something that doesn't need the sun.
*You* doing what will help her move past disappointment will work better than getting her to understand and do it herself.
Joyce
<semajrak@...>
Maybe make a batch of play dough before the two of you sit down together, and during the pauses, make fun things.>>>>>I'm wondering if there are any suggestions for making it easier for her to deal with?<<<<<
Have some paper and markers nearby, and add to a drawing during the pauses. One big doodle maybe.
Have some dice nearby and thrown them around to see how many match.
Those are things I know my son would have enjoyed at that age. You probably know what your daughter likes best. Ethan would have liked it if I was silly too. But, if I saw he was more frustrated than having fun, I would probably suggest we do something different and see if I could find some of the things (or similar things) that he liked watching on Youtube, on video if possible.
Karen.
Karen.
<donnayh15@...>
fyi my 8 year old son just showed me a little YouTube trick last night when we were watching a Panama Canal video together and I got frustrated because it kept pausing . . . If you start the video and then move the little button on the bar below the video almost all the way to the end, then wait, the entire video will be downloaded to your device. Then you can slide the little button back to the beginning of the video, and it won't pause
in the middle when you watch it. When I asked him why he hadn't done that to start with, he told me he doesn't mind the pausing because it gives him time to think about what he's just seen as he waits for the next part of the video to download. As I recalled that I used to use those pauses to chat with him about what we had just seen, and what might be coming next, he also suggested that I could be a little more patient :-)
in the middle when you watch it. When I asked him why he hadn't done that to start with, he told me he doesn't mind the pausing because it gives him time to think about what he's just seen as he waits for the next part of the video to download. As I recalled that I used to use those pauses to chat with him about what we had just seen, and what might be coming next, he also suggested that I could be a little more patient :-)
Ali Zeljo
Sparrow is really enjoying watching all sorts of things on YouTube right now, but unfortunately gets so upset when it pauses.
I have experienced a similar frustration in my three year old. He is usually happy to watch a DVD when the internet is lagging or out. Maybe you could bring it up in the morning when she's fresh. Say something like- hey want to go pick out some videos to watch at the library today? Then later when you feel like watching something funny, (or whatever the topic is she pursues... ) We can watch a video. Those don't lag like YouTube does.Ali
Sandra Dodd
-=-If you start the video and then move the little button on the bar below the video almost all the way to the end, then wait, the entire video will be downloaded to your device. Then you can slide the little button back to the beginning of the video, and it won't pause-=-
I like his idea about thinking during the pauses.
When people complain about commercials, I think (and sometimes say) that's when you get a drink, or go to the bathroom) and... that's who paid for you to see that program.
But if you slide back to the beginning of a youtube video, instead of to the end, and go to the bathroom or get a drink, it will be loading. And then you won't have things downloaded that you will need to clear out later, right?
Sandra
Sandra Dodd
-=-She just turned three, so I'm not expecting her to be patient. I feel bad for her when she gets so upset and I can't fix it or help her fix it. I'm wondering if there are any suggestions for making it easier for her to deal with?-=-
Upload a couple of musicals she likes so she always has a go-to happy movie that won't cut out?
Pushpa Ramachandran
When veda was three she would have huge meltdowns when the video would pause. There is sometimes no really good way to explain this to a three year old who only sees it as an interruption to her viewing experience. I started downloading a lot of videos for her since that was just the only way to go,about it. She learnt at three to skip through episodes she might not want to watch and slowly started to understand the difference between downloaded and live. It was amazing how she learnt the word "buffering" around that time! She is almost 5now and still gets upset once in a while when watching youtube live. She requests me to download things since her viewing experience,is that importance to her and will chose to wait and watch something uniterupted over watching something over "buffering".
Regards,
Pushpa
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Regards,
Pushpa
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From: Sandra Dodd
Sent: 25-04-2014 19:30
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Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Supporting my 3 year old with patience
-=-She just turned three, so I'm not expecting her to be patient. I feel bad for her when she gets so upset and I can't fix it or help her fix it. I'm wondering if there are any suggestions for making it easier for her to deal with?-=-
Upload a couple of musicals she likes so she always has a go-to happy movie that won't cut out?
BRIAN POLIKOWSKY
Buffering and Lag online are really irritating even for people as old as me!
See if you can get more speed on your internet. Just going from 1 Mbps to 5 Mbps can make a HUGE difference!
Make sure he does not have too many videos open at once as that may slow down the download too,
He is young. I would try to technically fix the issue as you can really fix him to be more patient. That comes with age and experience.
Make sure he does not have too many videos open at once as that may slow down the download too,
He is young. I would try to technically fix the issue as you can really fix him to be more patient. That comes with age and experience.
The most important thing a parent can do is to keep the calm.
Even if the child is very upset you need to be calm and strong, listen and be there for him.
Even if the child is very upset you need to be calm and strong, listen and be there for him.
Sometimes just him to pause and wait until all is loaded and than play the video. That is less aggravating than when it stops all the time!
Ultimately if you can get better speeds on your
internet. IT is worth any extra money!
Alex Polikowsky
BRIAN POLIKOWSKY
-=-=-=He is young. I would try to technically fix the issue as you can really fix him to be more patient. -=-=-
I meant you CAN"T fix him!
Sorry.
I just reread some of my latest post and they are terrible ! So many mistakes! I will definitely be more careful and proof read better. Just been a crazy week here.
Alex P
I meant you CAN"T fix him!
Sorry.
I just reread some of my latest post and they are terrible ! So many mistakes! I will definitely be more careful and proof read better. Just been a crazy week here.
Alex P