Emf..tech..safety
Fundayeveryday
I am thankful for the discussion that has been going on from my original posting.
As a new unschooling family we are learning to give everyone in our family more choices and freedom and that includes gaming on the laptop which is why I Brought up the emf . I am trying to give myself freedom from worrying and let go of my fears about life in general that have been set in my head over the years but I have to admit that when I read about something that 'could 'cause cancer , my maternal protective fearful radar goes on. Unschooling philosophy has helped me to let go of A LOT of my fears about life in general but the one fear that I can't seem to free my mind of is trying to prevent my children from cancer (maybe an irrational thought).As any other parent, we all want our children to be happy AND healthy mentally and physically. I am trying more and more to be "safe without being irrational" but then- what is 'safety' in regards to gaming ? I am aware of safety -with protection -in other aspects of our lives (i.e. strapping my small children into a car seat and the rest of Us strapping in ourselves knowing that it will protect us in an accident compared to not wearing one) but what is 'safe' with protection in regards to wifi and technology's radiation emissions??.I've actually read about radiation shields to put on cell phones , supposedly proven to lower radiation levels via a radiation meter but it could very well be a scam! Playing world of tanks game for two or three hours makes my son beaming with happiness and I Will not restrict his time because of the smile on his face when he talks about the game. And he does live happily away from the computer as well. What remains in the back if my mind is what if damage is being done by radiation to his body that I could be protecting him from? But then again I Don't know the radiation levels from our cordless house phone or t.v. or microwave oven, etc. that we've had since before our children were born and yet I've never thought to worry about those and our children were born as healthy babies and are still healthy. Did I just prove my own self crazy??? If I were really crazy I guess I would say that the emf might be greater from wifi and I should be protecting my family more and that 's why I should worry more. But that is just too exhausting and takes time away from my beautiful family that I Am thoroughly enjoying through unschooling.
Kristen
As a new unschooling family we are learning to give everyone in our family more choices and freedom and that includes gaming on the laptop which is why I Brought up the emf . I am trying to give myself freedom from worrying and let go of my fears about life in general that have been set in my head over the years but I have to admit that when I read about something that 'could 'cause cancer , my maternal protective fearful radar goes on. Unschooling philosophy has helped me to let go of A LOT of my fears about life in general but the one fear that I can't seem to free my mind of is trying to prevent my children from cancer (maybe an irrational thought).As any other parent, we all want our children to be happy AND healthy mentally and physically. I am trying more and more to be "safe without being irrational" but then- what is 'safety' in regards to gaming ? I am aware of safety -with protection -in other aspects of our lives (i.e. strapping my small children into a car seat and the rest of Us strapping in ourselves knowing that it will protect us in an accident compared to not wearing one) but what is 'safe' with protection in regards to wifi and technology's radiation emissions??.I've actually read about radiation shields to put on cell phones , supposedly proven to lower radiation levels via a radiation meter but it could very well be a scam! Playing world of tanks game for two or three hours makes my son beaming with happiness and I Will not restrict his time because of the smile on his face when he talks about the game. And he does live happily away from the computer as well. What remains in the back if my mind is what if damage is being done by radiation to his body that I could be protecting him from? But then again I Don't know the radiation levels from our cordless house phone or t.v. or microwave oven, etc. that we've had since before our children were born and yet I've never thought to worry about those and our children were born as healthy babies and are still healthy. Did I just prove my own self crazy??? If I were really crazy I guess I would say that the emf might be greater from wifi and I should be protecting my family more and that 's why I should worry more. But that is just too exhausting and takes time away from my beautiful family that I Am thoroughly enjoying through unschooling.
Kristen
Jenny Cyphers
And? There are loads of things to worry about. Why though? Why get your knickers in a twist about this one thing? Why do it at all for anything?
My dad got cancer on his tongue, something that normally only happens to smokers or chewers and he does neither, no reason at all, it just happened. He got it removed and life went on.
I had 2 heart attacks and a double bypass surgery last June. I'm 41 and don't smoke and don't have heart disease. It was random, no reason that anyone can tell me. Life goes on.
Things happen, good things, bad things, neutral things. Why would anyone choose to dwell on the unpleasant things? Fill up your life with joyful things! Seriously! Because if something unpleasant does happen, that's all you've got in your memory banks. It's what you can draw from to get through the crap.
More than that, Unschooling is about learning. Learning happens all the time. Being happy, joyful, that gets a person through! Learning happens like magic when there is a lighthearted joy underlying it!
We shouldn't fill up our children's memory banks with fear and negativity. If you feel it, try as best as you can to clear it away, if not for your own peace of mind, do it for your kids because you don't know what life will throw at them. What I know is that seeking happiness and calm and joy and peace will be better tools to get through life than fear and negativity!
If you look for it, fear and negativity is around every corner. The same applies to happiness and joy. It's a choice.
In those days where it doesn't feel like a choice, but you've lived your life sharing that perspective with your kids, they will repeat it back to you and remind you why you should be happy. I can't imagine how dismal it would be if, in the midst of turmoil, the people closest to me, didn't seek out the bright side of life and share it.
It's a mind numbing thought. Negativity and fear are a greater poison than all the emf in all the world!
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My dad got cancer on his tongue, something that normally only happens to smokers or chewers and he does neither, no reason at all, it just happened. He got it removed and life went on.
I had 2 heart attacks and a double bypass surgery last June. I'm 41 and don't smoke and don't have heart disease. It was random, no reason that anyone can tell me. Life goes on.
Things happen, good things, bad things, neutral things. Why would anyone choose to dwell on the unpleasant things? Fill up your life with joyful things! Seriously! Because if something unpleasant does happen, that's all you've got in your memory banks. It's what you can draw from to get through the crap.
More than that, Unschooling is about learning. Learning happens all the time. Being happy, joyful, that gets a person through! Learning happens like magic when there is a lighthearted joy underlying it!
We shouldn't fill up our children's memory banks with fear and negativity. If you feel it, try as best as you can to clear it away, if not for your own peace of mind, do it for your kids because you don't know what life will throw at them. What I know is that seeking happiness and calm and joy and peace will be better tools to get through life than fear and negativity!
If you look for it, fear and negativity is around every corner. The same applies to happiness and joy. It's a choice.
In those days where it doesn't feel like a choice, but you've lived your life sharing that perspective with your kids, they will repeat it back to you and remind you why you should be happy. I can't imagine how dismal it would be if, in the midst of turmoil, the people closest to me, didn't seek out the bright side of life and share it.
It's a mind numbing thought. Negativity and fear are a greater poison than all the emf in all the world!
Sent from my iPhone
Joyce Fetteroll
On Nov 12, 2013, at 9:35 PM, Fundayeveryday wrote:
what if damage is being done by radiation to his body that I could be protecting him from?
Perhaps it's future guilt you're trying to avoid rather than future disease.
How do you handle a situation when your choice made it worse? Do you treat what happened as an opportunity to make a more informed choice or to see a bigger picture next time? Or do you beat yourself up, going over and over what you did wrong and how you could have been so stupid?
If you think guilt might be behind your worry, there was a post I wrote about guilt:
that connects back to a good thread about guilt:
Sandra has a small page on Mistakes:
Joyce
Sandra Dodd
-=-Things happen, good things, bad things, neutral things. -=-
My mom drank and smoked (overall, more non-filtered cigarettes than filtered in the course of her life as a smoker. She drank more than she ate, for twenty or so years.
My mom started smoking because she and my dad were fighting over him lighting a cigarette before she was through eating dinner, and she wasn't a smoker. The marriage counsellor, then around 1950, said if she started smoking, the problem would be solved and their marriage would last a long time. It lasted 23 years or so.
She died at 72.
I had another friend who did NOT drink, did NOT smoke anything, worked hard in school, finished law school, got a law job in Dallas, got a date (he had not socialized in college, either, just studied) and on this date, was hit by a car and killed. He was in a crosswalk. His new date, who was on a date with a young lawyer, was right there and saw it.
Working hard didn't kill him. Random factors killed him.
Drinking and smoking didn't kill my mom. Her death certificate suggested that was causal, but 72 years old is a long time to live. I only had one grandparent live that long.
Sandra
<alohabun@...>
"Things happen, good things, bad things, neutral things. Why would anyone choose to dwell on the unpleasant things? Fill up your life with joyful things! Seriously! Because if something unpleasant does happen, that's all you've got in your memory banks. It's what you can draw from to get through the crap.
More than that, Unschooling is about learning. Learning happens all the time. Being happy, joyful, that gets a person through!"
---In [email protected], <jenstarc4@...> wrote:And? There are loads of things to worry about. Why though? Why get your knickers in a twist about this one thing? Why do it at all for anything?
My dad got cancer on his tongue, something that normally only happens to smokers or chewers and he does neither, no reason at all, it just happened. He got it removed and life went on.
I had 2 heart attacks and a double bypass surgery last June. I'm 41 and don't smoke and don't have heart disease. It was random, no reason that anyone can tell me. Life goes on.
Things happen, good things, bad things, neutral things. Why would anyone choose to dwell on the unpleasant things? Fill up your life with joyful things! Seriously! Because if something unpleasant does happen, that's all you've got in your memory banks. It's what you can draw from to get through the crap.
More than that, Unschooling is about learning. Learning happens all the time. Being happy, joyful, that gets a person through! Learning happens like magic when there is a lighthearted joy underlying it!
We shouldn't fill up our children's memory banks with fear and negativity. If you feel it, try as best as you can to clear it away, if not for your own peace of mind, do it for your kids because you don't know what life will throw at them. What I know is that seeking happiness and calm and joy and peace will be better tools to get through life than fear and negativity!
If you look for it, fear and negativity is around every corner. The same applies to happiness and joy. It's a choice.
In those days where it doesn't feel like a choice, but you've lived your life sharing that perspective with your kids, they will repeat it back to you and remind you why you should be happy. I can't imagine how dismal it would be if, in the midst of turmoil, the people closest to me, didn't seek out the bright side of life and share it.
It's a mind numbing thought. Negativity and fear are a greater poison than all the emf in all the world!
Sent from my iPhone
That reminds me of when Brene Brown (author of "Daring Greatly" - which I'm still reading) talks and writes about "foreboding joy" - those times when people are afraid to feel joyful because they don't want to be blindsided or vulnerable if something tragic happens. Like when a person thinks how good things are and then suddenly worries that it is too good and won't last.
She says that although some people try to prepare themselves, we can't prepare ourselves for dealing with tragedy. But something we can do is to practice gratitude. Allow yourself to be grateful and be thankful for joyful moments because the joy and good feelings that we've experienced will help us in hard times. And that is just what Jenny wrote above!
There is a short video clip where Brene Brown is interviewed by Katie Couric and talks about foreboding joy and gratitude. Is it okay to post the link to that?
Laurie
Sandra Dodd
-=-There is a short video clip where Brene Brown is interviewed by Katie Couric and talks about foreboding joy and gratitude. Is it okay to post the link to that? -=-
Sure.
<alohabun@...>
The link to Katie Couric's interview with Brene Brown is here: http://katiecouric.com/videos/brene-brown-foreboding-joy/
Laurie
---In [email protected], <Sandra@...> wrote:-=-There is a short video clip where Brene Brown is interviewed by Katie Couric and talks about foreboding joy and gratitude. Is it okay to post the link to that? -=-Sure.