Mary Hickman

Hello everyone,

I'm Mary, mom to Riley 5 Ashley 7.5 and tessa 2.5. Lately at our house
Ashley won't get dressed. Seems she needing the attention, again. Can't I
get it right with this kid! Anyhow, she is complaining about seams and
wrinkles...Not very fun every morning. She has decided to wear a swimsuit
for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any problem here with wearing
a swimsuit day in and day out? She has 3 of them and I am keeping up with
washing as best I can. She is sleeping in them too. Hasn't touched her
dresser drawers for weeks now. She has 2 dresses she wears, that's it.

Question 2: Someone on the list asked about books for body awareness. Ashley
stopped me yesterday with a light bulb question, Mommy, do you and Daddy....
to have a baby? So even though I felt I'm not in need of any such books yet,
I'm thinking I need to do some research for myself about talking to kids
about reproduction.

Mary



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Kinkade

Mary,

I'm Rebecca, mom to Ashley 12.5, Jennifer 9, Nathan 4 and Kris 1 (2 in June). I found that with my girls letting them make their own "fashion" choices works best. That is as long as it is appropriate for the occasion. My oldest dd used to give me a really hard time about her clothes too. Everything had to be "just so" or she wouldn't wear it. So, I started letting her pick her own clothes out when we shop, again within reason. I made a few rules, that were to me reasonable limits. Some were, no 2 piece bathing suits, no short shorts, not sleeveless shirts. Just things that were important to me. The rest is for her to decide. I also let both girls wear what is comfortable around the house, except our house rule is, everyone must be dressed.... : )

I think, if you let her wear the bathing suit, and don't make a big deal out of it, you will find that she will give it up on her own. I would let her know that when you go out, she must choose something other than the bathing suit. I have found with my girls that the more I try to interfere the more they fight me.

I hope this is helpful,

Rebecca
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Subject: [AlwaysLearning] Girls and questions


Hello everyone,

I'm Mary, mom to Riley 5 Ashley 7.5 and tessa 2.5. Lately at our house
Ashley won't get dressed. Seems she needing the attention, again. Can't I
get it right with this kid! Anyhow, she is complaining about seams and
wrinkles...Not very fun every morning. She has decided to wear a swimsuit
for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any problem here with wearing
a swimsuit day in and day out? She has 3 of them and I am keeping up with
washing as best I can. She is sleeping in them too. Hasn't touched her
dresser drawers for weeks now. She has 2 dresses she wears, that's it.

Question 2: Someone on the list asked about books for body awareness. Ashley
stopped me yesterday with a light bulb question, Mommy, do you and Daddy....
to have a baby? So even though I felt I'm not in need of any such books yet,
I'm thinking I need to do some research for myself about talking to kids
about reproduction.

Mary



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In a message dated 5/14/2002 9:53:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
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> I also let both girls wear what is comfortable around the house, except our
> house rule is, everyone must be dressed.... : )
>
>
Who is it here whose school name is The Clothing Optional School?

HOUSE rule--as in IN the house? That's our "rule" for LEAVING the house! <BWG>


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Joylyn

I agree with this. Clothing is optional in our house too, but one must
get dressed to go anywhere..

Joylyn

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> except our
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> Who is it here whose school name is The Clothing Optional School?
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At 10:28 PM 5/14/02 -0400, you wrote:
> In a message dated 5/14/2002 9:53:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
> kinkade@... writes:
>> I also let both girls wear what is comfortable around the house, except
our
>> house rule is, everyone must be dressed.... : )
>>
>>
> Who is it here whose school name is The Clothing Optional School?


Well glad there's others. Sitting reading this dressed only in knickers I
was worried:) Of course no one else is up yet so I have freedom. My older
kids don't wander around naked anymore but always used to until about 9 or
10. Now the boys hang out in their boxer shorts and t-shirt. Ben (7)
refuses to wear underwear or shirt in the house so just wears comfy shorts.
Often they will also wear dishdashas (the Arabic men's long white
"dresses") as they are really comfy.

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In a message dated 5/14/02 5:14:16 PM, mfhick@... writes:

<< She has decided to wear a swimsuit
for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any problem here with wearing
a swimsuit day in and day out? >>

Not if it's not too tight. It won't last forever.

I have to have all the tags taken out of my clothes or they distract me or
hurt me or both. If I try to ignore a tag, I end up with a little rash or a
raw place.

Holly's the same way. Her brothers aren't; my husband isn't.

I can't wear anything with nylon thread in a seam. Some polyester causes
skin irritation. I can't wear wool. Nylon is bothersome (like nylon
nightclothes--I gave up years ago--i can never relax).

It's possible your daughter's that way too.

Sandra

Sharon Rudd

. She has
> decided to wear a swimsuit
> for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any
> problem here with wearing
> a swimsuit day in and day out? She has 3 of them
> and I am keeping up with
> washing as best I can. She is sleeping in them
> too. Hasn't touched her
> dresser drawers for weeks now. She has 2 dresses
> she wears, that's it.
....................................
In the summers I often use (well, used to, until the
last year or so.....I'm 52 now) swim suits for
underwear, too. Why not? Don't have to worry about
what is showing, and if the water is inviting..... I
used to use the top of the swim suit as outer wear,
too. If my body still fit me properly, I would wear
these lovely tank tops with the built in bras.

When I was little I wore a little cotton, pull on
thingy, similar to a swim suit, only it had elastic
legs, waiste, and tied on the shoulders. It was easy
to pull on something over it to go anywear.

Have you thought about those adorable pull over
dresses out of tee shirt knits? There are some really
cute....and comfortable ones. Or just some tees and
gathered skirts or light cotton capris to pull on over
the swim suit to go places. Leotards work well, too,
as play clothes....they lend themselves to imagination
so well (basis for costumes)

Sharon of the Swamp

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>
>
> She has decided to wear a swimsuit
>for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any problem here with wearing
>a swimsuit day in and day out? She has 3 of them and I am keeping up with
>washing as best I can. She is sleeping in them too.
>

Buy her 4 more to make a complete set. Don't forget to let her try them
on, first. That would be getting it right with her.

Also, another alternative might be exercise-wear. Spandex bike shorts
and little work-out bras...I know they make those little soft bras for
little girls.

My 17 yo went about 3 weeks wearing the same shirt and shorts to school
every day when he was about 7. I taught him how to use the washing
machine, and he washed them every night. After that 3 week stint, he
still wore them a LOT, but not every day. He still wears much of the
same things day in and day out, but he's more concerned about hygiene
now, and at least wears a clean shirt and undies every day.

Tuck

Tia Leschke

>
>
><< She has decided to wear a swimsuit
>for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any problem here with wearing
>a swimsuit day in and day out? >>
>
>Not if it's not too tight. It won't last forever.

If it's one piece, I can see a problem with using the toilet. But that
would be her problem. There's also the possibility of vaginal yeasts, if
the suit doesn't "breathe" well.
Tia

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Tia Leschke
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On Vancouver Island

oldpriss

--- In AlwaysLearning@y..., "Mary Hickman" <mfhick@h...> wrote:
> Hello everyone,
Anyhow, she is complaining about seams and
> wrinkles...Not very fun every morning.

I have a neice who when she was very small would go ballistic over
sock "bumps". Her mom spent at least an extra fifteen minutes most
mornings trying to find the perfect pair of socks for the little girl
and making sure they stretched correctly over her toes. It was
driving the mom crazy. I happened to read about that time that many
very bright children dislike the feel of certain things about
clothing: sock "bumps", seams, wrinkles, that sort of thing. My
sister-in-law felt a little better about the situation when she read
that. Her daughter grew out of it eventually.

Priss

Tia Leschke

>If my body still fit me properly,

Great image! I've got one like that too.
Tia


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Eleanor Roosevelt
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leschke@...
On Vancouver Island

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In a message dated 5/15/02 9:17:44 AM, Priss1000@... writes:

<< Her daughter grew out of it eventually. >>

I bet she didn't really grow out of it. I bet she just grew into the ability
to arrange her OWN socks around her toes and within her shoes, choose less
bumpy socks from the store, cut her own tags out, etc.

If I have cheap socks and a toe-seam gets to pressing against me, I am so
aware of it I have no option but to go somewhere and rearrange my sock before
I can function.

I never have to discuss it with people because I can do it myself now. <g>

If I ever have to have other people buy my socks and put them on it will be a
factor again.


Sandra

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In a message dated 5/15/02 10:08:58 AM, leschke@... writes:

<< There's also the possibility of vaginal yeasts, if
the suit doesn't "breathe" well. >>

That's what I was thinking too. Too much nylon plus sweat. Or if the elastic
is too tight on shoulders or leg openings it could just cut circulation off
enough to be unconsciously irritating and not as healthy as a looser suit
would be.

Sandra

moonmeghan

<<<<<< She has decided to wear a swimsuit
> >for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any
problem here with wearing
> >a swimsuit day in and day out? >>>>>>
> >
<<<<There's also the possibility of vaginal yeasts, if
> the suit doesn't "breathe" well.
> Tia>>>>


I get a rash down below if I wear anything but cotton for too long
(like more than a few hours). You could pick out some cotton
swimsuits, leotards, or workout clothes if you're concerned about
her vaginal health. Then it would be just like wearing cotton
underwear!
Also, have you read 'Raising Your Spirited Child' by Mary Sheedy
Kurcinka. I know there's a section about kids that are extra
sensitive to how clothing feels (like tags, seams, etc.). She has
also written another book to do with older kids, something about
power struggles, I think.

Meghan

Dana Matt

I have two daughters, 9.5 and 4....and I have to
ask...What's the big deal? Kids, like *all* people,
should wear what they like and feel comfortable in.
Regardless of what they chose. Most often in our
house, that means naked or various stages of
undress--like JUST wool socks, or a sweatshirt and
that's all....We're still working out the idea behind
when it's going to be a problem NOT to wear
clothes...Not a hard and fast rule. We like to hike
naked, go swimming naked, go on outings with the
naturist society...so there are many times when we are
out and about naked, too...We know the days our
neighbors work, so we can feel free-er in our
yard...I'm rambling a lot here, but I guess what I'm
saying is--a swimming suit? Yeah, Ok....
Dana
Montana Mama

--- Mary Hickman <mfhick@...> wrote:
> Hello everyone,
>
> I'm Mary, mom to Riley 5 Ashley 7.5 and tessa 2.5.
> Lately at our house
> Ashley won't get dressed. Seems she needing the
> attention, again. Can't I
> get it right with this kid! Anyhow, she is
> complaining about seams and
> wrinkles...Not very fun every morning. She has
> decided to wear a swimsuit
> for underwear, so my question, does anyone see any
> problem here with wearing
> a swimsuit day in and day out? She has 3 of them and
> I am keeping up with
> washing as best I can. She is sleeping in them too.
> Hasn't touched her
> dresser drawers for weeks now. She has 2 dresses she
> wears, that's it.
>
> Question 2: Someone on the list asked about books
> for body awareness. Ashley
> stopped me yesterday with a light bulb question,
> Mommy, do you and Daddy....
> to have a baby? So even though I felt I'm not in
> need of any such books yet,
> I'm thinking I need to do some research for myself
> about talking to kids
> about reproduction.
>
> Mary
>
>
>
>
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On Wed, 15 May 2002 10:25:40 -0700 (PDT) Dana Matt
<hoffmanwilson@...> writes:

> We like to hike
> naked, go swimming naked, go on outings with the
> naturist society...so there are many times when we are
> out and about naked, too...

E-mail naked....? Yes, we're on to you Dana! <g>

Sarongs and Sari's are nice and comfy for the not so naked moments, not
as snug as a swimsuit. Sari's are lovely to garden in ( when your not
naked ) because you have a built in sling for carrying salad stuff back
to the house.

I remember whole summers naked in West Yellowstone... West Yellowstone's
changed some since those days. <g>

Deb L

Diane

I had a toe-seam problem yesterday and had to go get a bandaid to put on my toes
before I could finish getting dressed.

:-) Diane


> If I have cheap socks and a toe-seam gets to pressing against me, I am so
> aware of it I have no option but to go somewhere and rearrange my sock before
> I can function.
>
> I never have to discuss it with people because I can do it myself now. <g>
>
> If I ever have to have other people buy my socks and put them on it will be a
> factor again.

And *that* is why even the most caring and loving nursing home is so depressing.

:-) Diane