food control (problems with that)
Sandra Dodd
-=-I try to find language that is not going to raise any red flags to certain family members. I have gotten a lot better about finding words that will work in ALL situations. It takes time. One of the red flags that I see in this statement is �helping him to figure out how to make good choices�. The reason it raised a red flag is because I see some of my mainstream friends force their children to do things under the guise of helping their children to make good choices. The parent has predetermined what is �good� and the child is pushed towards whatever mom thinks is �good� without any input from the child.-=-
That was from another topic, but the food extremists are doing that to children now. Unschoolers with food focus.
I did a talk on food Friday, but had too much in my outline and didn't get to all of it. That's too bad I didn't plan better, because what I wanted to say was important. So I promised people there I would put the rest of it at a link, but it was mostly outline/brief notes, and needs fleshing out, so I haven't finished yet.
But this is the crux of it, the "help them figure out good" thing.
Kids can't figure out anything if there's someone hovering and saying "Ooooh, good!" and "yuck, horrible."
And in the case of food, if they're not allowed to decide which foods appeal to them, and what then those foods do to their body (which doesn't happen right then, and doesn't happen at all if the mom is coaching and pressuring them about what the MOM thinks or hopes will be happening), then those children don't learn to listen to their own bodies. And it's likely that at some point they will learn NOT to listen to their moms. Then they will be eating things the mom disapproves of, and a lot of it, and those might be things they never would even have chosen if their mom hadn't been sorting food into sin and virtue, poison and health, in extreme and sometimes arbitrary, faddish or political ways.
The quote above, in context, was about TV and was by Connie/otherstar here:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AlwaysLearning/message/67356
I just lifted that one part to apply to food restrictions.
Sandra
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That was from another topic, but the food extremists are doing that to children now. Unschoolers with food focus.
I did a talk on food Friday, but had too much in my outline and didn't get to all of it. That's too bad I didn't plan better, because what I wanted to say was important. So I promised people there I would put the rest of it at a link, but it was mostly outline/brief notes, and needs fleshing out, so I haven't finished yet.
But this is the crux of it, the "help them figure out good" thing.
Kids can't figure out anything if there's someone hovering and saying "Ooooh, good!" and "yuck, horrible."
And in the case of food, if they're not allowed to decide which foods appeal to them, and what then those foods do to their body (which doesn't happen right then, and doesn't happen at all if the mom is coaching and pressuring them about what the MOM thinks or hopes will be happening), then those children don't learn to listen to their own bodies. And it's likely that at some point they will learn NOT to listen to their moms. Then they will be eating things the mom disapproves of, and a lot of it, and those might be things they never would even have chosen if their mom hadn't been sorting food into sin and virtue, poison and health, in extreme and sometimes arbitrary, faddish or political ways.
The quote above, in context, was about TV and was by Connie/otherstar here:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AlwaysLearning/message/67356
I just lifted that one part to apply to food restrictions.
Sandra
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