arranged marriages
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I know personally two women in arranged marriages who have been married a
long, long time. Over 20 years. One is Hindu, and in her 30's. The other
is in her 40's and is, in the vernacular, a Moonie. Officially: The
Unification Church.
There's a fair amount online, and none of this discussion changes how
unschooling works--it's totally outside of how people learn, in my
opinion--but I think this answers the question of why someone would say she'd
expect earlier marriages from Christian homeschoolers.
-=-In the last several years, the term "courtship" has become more and more
popular among Christian circles to describe various methods of engaging in a
serious romantic relationship. For some Christians, courtship means an
approach to marriage that is almost the same thing as an arranged marriage.
Your parents pick your future mate and there is hardly any one-on-one contact
before marriage. For others, it means the same thing as a serious dating
relationship. You decide to court someone when you are thinking about perhaps
marrying that person.-=-
from
http://teens.crosswalk.com/partner/Article_Display_Page/0,,PTID74457%7CCHID198
784%7CCIID894214,00.html
Too long to quote:
http://www.thenewamerican.com/tna/2001/01-01-2001/vo17no01_courtship.htm
Part of a longer interesting article (citation afterward):
A father’s continuing interest in his daughter
Having fulfilled all the foregoing and seeing his daughter married, a
father's responsibility to her is not ended. "For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become
one flesh" (Gen. 2:24).
It doesn't say the wife will leave her family, perhaps because the transfer
of authority from father to husband makes that clear. Perhaps though the
father still has some responsibility for his daughter. Deuteronomy 22:13-19
shows a father intervening to protect his daughter when she is slandered by
her husband. Combined with Matthew 18:15-17 God shows clearly how parents
might become involved in a daughters defense. Clearly, great sensitivity and
caution would be necessary in these situations.
Laban said to Jacob as they parted, "May the LORD keep watch between you and
me when we are away from each other. If you mistreat my daughter or if you
take any wives beside my daughter, even though no one is with us, remember
that God is a witness between you and me" (Gen. 31:49-50).
A father and a son-in-law have much in common. They are both heads of
households with responsibilities of self-sacrifice to those in their care.
They both operate as intermediaries in God's chain of authority and
protection. The daughter has passed from the loving authority of one to that
of another. They are united in their love, affection, and willingness to
sacrifice for her. The bond that develops as a result of their shared
interest and position will mature through the time of discipleship and become
strong in shared friendship, love, and purpose. The marriage of a daughter is
indeed not the loss of a daughter but a gain—the gain not of a son but of a
brother in Christ.
http://www.mistymountain.org/courtship/daughters_article.htm
long, long time. Over 20 years. One is Hindu, and in her 30's. The other
is in her 40's and is, in the vernacular, a Moonie. Officially: The
Unification Church.
There's a fair amount online, and none of this discussion changes how
unschooling works--it's totally outside of how people learn, in my
opinion--but I think this answers the question of why someone would say she'd
expect earlier marriages from Christian homeschoolers.
-=-In the last several years, the term "courtship" has become more and more
popular among Christian circles to describe various methods of engaging in a
serious romantic relationship. For some Christians, courtship means an
approach to marriage that is almost the same thing as an arranged marriage.
Your parents pick your future mate and there is hardly any one-on-one contact
before marriage. For others, it means the same thing as a serious dating
relationship. You decide to court someone when you are thinking about perhaps
marrying that person.-=-
from
http://teens.crosswalk.com/partner/Article_Display_Page/0,,PTID74457%7CCHID198
784%7CCIID894214,00.html
Too long to quote:
http://www.thenewamerican.com/tna/2001/01-01-2001/vo17no01_courtship.htm
Part of a longer interesting article (citation afterward):
A father’s continuing interest in his daughter
Having fulfilled all the foregoing and seeing his daughter married, a
father's responsibility to her is not ended. "For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become
one flesh" (Gen. 2:24).
It doesn't say the wife will leave her family, perhaps because the transfer
of authority from father to husband makes that clear. Perhaps though the
father still has some responsibility for his daughter. Deuteronomy 22:13-19
shows a father intervening to protect his daughter when she is slandered by
her husband. Combined with Matthew 18:15-17 God shows clearly how parents
might become involved in a daughters defense. Clearly, great sensitivity and
caution would be necessary in these situations.
Laban said to Jacob as they parted, "May the LORD keep watch between you and
me when we are away from each other. If you mistreat my daughter or if you
take any wives beside my daughter, even though no one is with us, remember
that God is a witness between you and me" (Gen. 31:49-50).
A father and a son-in-law have much in common. They are both heads of
households with responsibilities of self-sacrifice to those in their care.
They both operate as intermediaries in God's chain of authority and
protection. The daughter has passed from the loving authority of one to that
of another. They are united in their love, affection, and willingness to
sacrifice for her. The bond that develops as a result of their shared
interest and position will mature through the time of discipleship and become
strong in shared friendship, love, and purpose. The marriage of a daughter is
indeed not the loss of a daughter but a gain—the gain not of a son but of a
brother in Christ.
http://www.mistymountain.org/courtship/daughters_article.htm