Stop yelling
Sandra Dodd
A couple of times lately, maybe three times, a mom has said she keeps yelling at her kids.
My neighbor behind me keeps yelling at her kid, her boyfriend, her (quite grown) brother, that poor new puppy they got. She just yells and yells and it seems nobody's listening.
Playing around, I came to a page on Joyce's site that will help, and if that's not enough, there's a second page, on mine, that might.
http://joyfullyrejoycing.com/changing%20parenting/tryingnottoyell.html
http://sandradodd.com/peacefulparenting
That second page talks about yelling being a better choice than hitting, and it is! But one step away from hitting isn't all the way toward peace and partnership. If you've only gotten as far as yelling, keep moving. Make a better choice than yelling, as often as you can. If that's not very often, work on that.
If you want your kids to hear you, you might try not saying anything sometimes, and whispering sometimes.
If you want your kids to hear you, maybe say less.
Sandra
My neighbor behind me keeps yelling at her kid, her boyfriend, her (quite grown) brother, that poor new puppy they got. She just yells and yells and it seems nobody's listening.
Playing around, I came to a page on Joyce's site that will help, and if that's not enough, there's a second page, on mine, that might.
http://joyfullyrejoycing.com/changing%20parenting/tryingnottoyell.html
http://sandradodd.com/peacefulparenting
That second page talks about yelling being a better choice than hitting, and it is! But one step away from hitting isn't all the way toward peace and partnership. If you've only gotten as far as yelling, keep moving. Make a better choice than yelling, as often as you can. If that's not very often, work on that.
If you want your kids to hear you, you might try not saying anything sometimes, and whispering sometimes.
If you want your kids to hear you, maybe say less.
Sandra